Is any one else is like me or im lazy

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Dear mums its a first time I'm using mums net. I'm a mother of 2 children older is 27 month boy and younger is 3 month both are C sec I take them out three or 4 time a day out and have a lot work so the day I don't take my older son out I feel lazy and guilty ist normal and yes im on medication for postpartum depression as I was feeling extreme overwhelm my younger son has colic problem

So you take your kids out 3 or 4 times a day normally but if you have a lot to do you don't take them out - is that what you're saying?

I'd say not taking them out on the day that you've got a lot to do is normal. It's the taking them out 3 or 4 times a day that's unusual!!!

It's not unusual to have days at home. Especially in winter with such a young baby. Be kind to yourself

Days at home are fine op. Don’t be so hard on yourself

Sounds like you take them out a lot OP, please don't beat yourself up.

Are you happy to take them out as much as you do? Because if you want to go out less then you should.

Do what is good for all of you.

I think my oppressive guilt only lifted when my youngest was three. Until then I really believed that I was a pretty terrible mother but I think it was largely hormonal. I think the guilt helps to drive us on through the exhaustion and overwhelm, so it serves a function in that sense but it can easily get out of hand too.

My dc are older now and I laugh off little incidents that would have crippled me with guilt before. Most things do no harm or often have an unexpected benefit.

I’m trying to say that feeling so much guilt is probably quite normal, but that the reasons for guilt aren’t reasonable. Do you have anyone in real life whose opinion you trust that you can confide in? It might help you keep a sense of perspective.

It really is ok to spend days at home if that’s easier. Personally I found that getting outside relieved the pressure for me, and I found rainy days tough. Looking after your needs is a big part of looking after theirs

With a colicky 3 month old you’re doing a fabulous job if everyone survives the day, and gets fed and changed as needed.

sorry 3-4 times a week