Lady I don't like wants to join a class and lift share

[Binpedal]

I know I'm unreasonable really so of course I just smile and nod and agree but inwardly I'm really down.
I have a class I love and I also love just driving or cycling to it myself with the headspace of escaping two kids of an evening.
A lady I know locally but have never clicked with (find her rude and haughty) wants to join and has been quite forceful about lift sharing.
I feel bad for feeling this way as I hate exclusivity and want to encourage others but when it's someone you really don't like and you're faced with sharing your beloved class and lifts every week?
I'll just shut up and put up but needed to off load!

You’ve no choice about her joining the class but of course you don’t have to just agree to a lift share. Just say it doesn’t work for you and you’ll see her at the class

"No, sorry that won't be convenient for me".

Then walk off.

"Ahhh sorry that won't work for me."

If you're feeling generous you could finish with "... as I often do chores before/after class so wouldn't want to make you hang around waiting"

Smile and repeat

Nah if you feel really strongly say

Thanks but I don't want to commit to lift sharing as I sometimes cycle and really enjoy that time to myself away from (insert house, kids job etc)

She can join. But you don’t have to lift share. Just say “no, sorry, I don’t want to lift share as I like to be flexible and my own space”

Lift sharing won't work for me as I don't always come from the same place and often like to cycle. See you there though, and maybe someone else will want to share"

You're right!
I've agreed to lift share first time but beyond that I'll use your options. Thanks

Once you've said it everything will be fine , the anticipation is worse.

It's nice to be nice but don't be a doormat.
Nothing wrong with doing a lift a couple of initial times - I assume she can't offer back. However mention one week that you can't do the lifts every week as you have other stuff on.
I get that you want your own space. I'm like that, hell, I inwardly moan about picking my own mates up because Iike listening to my own music or podcasts.

I don't mind first time as despite what I may think of her, I know it's so nerve racking starting a new thing.

Glad I'm not the only one who is anti social

'Nothing wrong with doing a lift a couple of initial times -'
Blimey, that is bad wording!!! You know what I mean!!!

Dont even do it once...

Can't back out now. Agreed to first time...

One of my new year goals is to be more assertive!

No don’t do it thr first time - that sets a precedent! And also means you’re giving emotional support. If she’s rude and naughty as you say she’s likely to question why you can’t lift share again (and again) and it’ll be awkward.

Do it first time but in the car say casually ‘it’s great I could bring you because I usually have to drop dh off/run around to dm/go crazily early etc’

Helmetbymidnight that's my plan.

I am in a choir. I use (and need) all my (rare) alone time in the car to practice my songs which I sing along to from the teaching recordings. I would hate for anyone else to have to suffer through listening to them and I wouldn't be comfortable singing them with someone else there as I'm still learning them. Just saying 😁

Lie and tell her you always go to your mother/sister/pstchic medium straight afterwards