Just looking for people’s thoughts really- I don’t want to talk to anyone in real life about this for reasons that will become obvious. I am a name changing regular.
My dd has recently graduated and started work in London. She is quite vulnerable after a catastrophic and very damaging relationship, so I am by necessity more involved in her life than I should be at her age, but she is rapidly gaining in confidence and independence, and I am thankfully taking more and more of a backseat.
Her godfather is an old family friend who has been very involved in her life since she was born. He is lovely. Kind, generous, supportive- everything a godfather should be. He is 65, and married, but his wife is increasingly disabled, and is not expected to live much longer. They have no children.
He is very rich, and owns several flats. He has offered one of them to dd at a peppercorn rent for 3 months while she finds her feet. The others are all rented out. He uses this flat as a pied a terre when he works in London- maybe 3 days a month. She happily accepted and moved in last week. He has, since she grew up, taken her out to dinner regularly, and is doing so tonight.
I can’t emphasize enough that I have never, ever has the slightest reason to question his motives. I feel absolutely shit for even thinking about this now. And I know I am over protective of her because of her past experience. But if you were me, would you be at all twitchy about her and him being alone together for 3 nights a month and him taking her out.....? And if you were is there anything you would do or say? As I said, I am 99.99999999999% sure that he regards her as a surrogate daughter. And nothing he has done is different to the way he has always behaved towards her. Kind, generous and supportive.