Friendships Ending

[Christmasfairy07]

Just feeling a bit sad as I think one of my friends may be trying ( kindly) to drop me. But I always find these sort of things difficult as it could be a case of she’s busy & life is taking over or she’s trying to move on from the friendship we had. Her text this morning said that she wasn’t free this week but she didn’t suggest any time when she would be free & actually it took her quite a few weeks to get back to me ( I initially texted a week before Christmas to suggest a New Year catch up). The main thing we had in common is that our DDs were friends but they fell out & apparently my friend’s DD is horrible to my DD now. I guess I should leave the ball in my friend’s court now. Does anyone else find it tricky when friendships are changing? I don’t want to end up like some kind of stalker!

Any thoughts?

It’s definitely sad when friendships end, I can understand why you’re feeling sad about it.
The truth is that life does get busy and in the way. How old are your DDs? Are they young enough that they need to be with you when you do meet up?

Leave the ball in her court, you have asked to meet, she has said she's busy so it's her move next. If she wants to meet she will contact you

My DD is 10, hers is 11 on March

In not on!

My friend also appears to have dropped me After a few months of knock backs I realised that it is only me who suggests getting together, etc and she has been too busy but not suggesting any alternative. It's hard because you genuinely don't know if they really are busy or just don't want to see you. I have decided not to bother any more, but even if she makes contact I don't think things will ever be the same again. Real friends know where they stand with each other. Focus on your other friends and leave her to it.

Our dd's (similar age to yours) also no longer get on. Don't know if her dd is going home and saying stuff about my dd because my dd is reporting back to me that friends dd is being mean.

I think you have to let this one go OP. Especially if your kids are no longer getting on. A true friendship picks up even if you've not seen each other for ages. It may be that you catch up months/years from now and still get in superbly. It may not. But if you've tried to set something up and she's responded as she has, I'd be inclined to text back a breezy 'ok no worries - let me know when is a good time for you' and leave it. If she gets back (soon; months from now) then decide if you want to catch up.

She dosent sound overly keen to meet, even if she's busy (which aren't we all) she could suggest a date.

I've stopped bothering to make an effort to make plans with a few people that just keep telling me how busy their are.

We are all busy, if you want to meet friends though it's not impossible and if it's a really awkward time you can say really sorry but could we meet in a few weeks/this date.