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How long would this amount last you ?

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bottomless · 07/01/2019 08:52

500g bag of granola
2x 500g pots of yogurt
3x packs of berries (smallish is 300g each)

I’m getting annoyed as my teenager is going through this in 2 days and it’s meant to last linger and be for everyone to have some of her she will eat it in the night saying it’s ‘posh’ granola and only she deserved the good stuff ??
I feel like getting a fridge in my room tbh and hiding some of it

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ciderhouserules · 07/01/2019 09:29

I don't think your problem is the cost of, or the how long the portions last;

your problem is your dds attitude.

ChocolateWombat · 07/01/2019 09:30

What an odd thing for her to say.

I would set her straight about it right away. 'No, there is no 'deserve' about it. This treat cereal is for everyone equally. There is some for you and you are allowed your fair share, which is X portion and then the rest must be left for the others. Do you understand? If you take more than your share again, when I buy it again, you won't have any. And if you can't be trusted, I won't be buying it at all. Do you understand? This also applies to (insert other food items this happens with).

I know teenagers often consume vast quantities of food and it's often the treats or food meant for meals that they somehow snack on, leaving nothing for the family meals. Isn't the answer just to be very clear about what they can eat and in what quantities and what needs to be left for meals or others. You need to make sure there's enough for them to eat, but you can be clear that spcertain things have to be shared or are for certain meals/times if the week. Should be easily solved with communication. Most of them are reasonable and just a bit hungry and thoughtless, rather than selfish. Not sure about OP's child though, based on odd comment she's made.

heartshapedknob · 07/01/2019 09:31

That would last probably about 10/12 portions here.
Also 600kcal of naked bars in one go? That’s equivalent to a main meal and it’s worrying that she’ll eat that out of sheer spite, particularly if her sibling can’t eat lots of stuff due to gluten and dairy content.

I’d buy it and lock it away somewhere, you’ve trusted her to be sensible, she hasn’t so that is the consequence.

Racecardriver · 07/01/2019 09:31

Honestly I would just hide it and not let her have any if she behaved that way. I know that’s immature and not good parenting but she’s being just horrid.

DragonMamma · 07/01/2019 09:32

Bloody hell. That’s a lot to eat in 2 days.

The granola would usually last me 2 working weeks, (10 days or so) and the 2 x 500g pot of yogurt would probably do me just over a working week - I found a pot did me 2 mornings with half a portion leftover.

It sounds less about her hunger or food and more about her sense of entitlement though.

Dvg · 07/01/2019 09:33

To be honest i think the only thing needed here is some serious discipline, that's not a healthy trait to grow up with and i think she is acting quite wierd i dont know how old she is but It sounds a little like she has some sort of mental problems either that OR she just needs the discipline.

BiscuitDrama · 07/01/2019 09:33

Does she eat normal meals too? It seems like a lot of breakfast food to get through.

gottastopeatingchocolate · 07/01/2019 09:33

Is she the oldest? Is she claiming the more "grown up" snacks?

Perhaps she is trying to be treated more grown up than her siblings?

That said, she is out of order and has a bad attitude. There would be consequences of her not listening when asked not to eat all the food. She sould accept that if there are a pack of (e.g.) Nakd bars, she can have ONE. Any more and consequences.

Magenta46 · 07/01/2019 09:34

MY teenager has a cupboard full of inexpensive" fillers". Beans, spaghetti hoops, bread , peanut butter, that sort of thing.
I tend to go to Heron foods for cereal bars and the like, super cheap.

Madeline88 · 07/01/2019 09:36

My partner would get through that amount of granola quite quickly but the yoghurt and berries would last for days.

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bottomless · 07/01/2019 09:36

The only thing I can think of is recently she’s got this issue with nice/posh/expensive stuff as suddenly she has a new set of friends who are a lot wealthier than us and she’s asserting some kind of control over the expensive food ??? In any case it’s not acceptable or sustainable for us

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TimeIhadaNameChange · 07/01/2019 09:41

Have you asked her why she thinks she's entitled to it more than anyone else in the family? Is she the eldest? Is she jealous of the fact a sibling has to have GF (so 'special') food.

She reminds me of my sibling. Was once given a bar of Dairy Milk at Easter from a friend, as I'd just got a brace and they weren't sure what I could have, so thought they'd stick with plain chocolate. The bar was in the cupboard, but she knew it was mine. Of course, she ate it because she saw it and wanted it. That time my mother made her replace it. A similar thing happened a few years later over something bigger (she saw it and decided it was hers, despite knowing otherwise) and that time my mother couldn't stand up to her (I wasn't there) and let her take it.

As for the jealousy thing, I don't think she was ever happier than the day she was diagnosed with asthma (in her 40s). I'd been diagnosed as a child and she hated it, that there was something I could get attention for that she couldn't. So don't dismiss the idea.

Are you near enough to the shop that you can tell her to replace these things when necessary, using her own money? Send her out in the evening if it's needed for breakfast the next day.

Bluetrews25 · 07/01/2019 09:52

You can make your own nice granola cheaply with
450g porridge oats (whole, not ready brek style, Aldi do 1kg bag for under £1- everyday essentials range)
plus whatever nuts or seeds you want
mix 100ml honey (or syrup), 100ml oil and 100ml boiling water in a jug, then add to oats and seeds
mix well.
Toast on a big baking sheet in the oven for 30 mins or so at 180C/gas 4, stirring it up every 8-10 mins so it does not burn and all tans evenly.
Then add whatever dried fruit you like.
Let it cool and box it up.

ShesABelter · 07/01/2019 10:01

HOW do you discipline a teenager for this though?

My dd is very similar and has such a victim mentality. You literally can't chastise her for any of her behaviour without her saying "God leave me alone" and storming away even when you calmly try explain to her and then she starts acting as if she's innocent and getting a hard time over nothing. She's so selfish with a massive superior complex. Definitely the hardest stage so far for me.

1Wanda1 · 07/01/2019 10:01

I would be hiding the granola, dispensing it only in portion-sizes as required, and using frozen berries not fresh.

You also need to deal with your DD's horribly selfish attitude to family life. Is there an underlying issue with her siblings? Jealousy of them for some reason?

sansou · 07/01/2019 10:06

Buy cheaper/more granola - better than snacking on crisps, biscuits and chocolate.

HoraceCope · 07/01/2019 10:09

I buy frozen fruit for the breakfast, it defrosts over night.
no way should she eat all the naked bars in one day, she obviously enjoys them!
hide them away under lock and key

Eliza9917 · 07/01/2019 12:32

How old is she? Not that that makes a difference but if she's old enough to get a job, I'm make her.

I'd also put locks on some of the kitchen doors.

PinkHeart5914 · 07/01/2019 13:04

Well the granola I’d expect 6 portions
The yoghurt 6 portions
Berries they go quickly so 2 days at the most

As for the cheeky mare saying only she should get to eat the good stuff, um no kid food is for the family and you will stop being greedy and eating the lot

I’d hid it and portion it out for breakfast, if she wants cereal as a snack then Rice Krispies it is

Scotinoz · 07/01/2019 13:35

My 3 year old can inhale a pack of berries in one sitting 😬

Hide the good cereal bars, buy cheaper yogurt, and bollock your teenager!

youaremyrain · 07/01/2019 18:57

Get some of these, one for the fridge and one for the cupboard

I've got one in the freezer for the ice lollies

Lockabox One | Compact and hygienic lockable box for food, medicines and home safety https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B01KVKMGBE/ref=cm swwr cppapi ii_9c6mCbJM2HS2Y

Cailleach · 07/01/2019 20:36

500g granola = c. 2000 calories
500g yoghurt = c. 300 calories
250g raspberries = 250 calories, x 3 = 750 calories

So an extra 1500 calories a day. That's an enormous amount on top of her usual intake and she will rapidly put on weight eating at that rate.

In all honesty, it looks like impulsive/comfort eating to me.

LovesLaboursLost · 07/01/2019 20:42

If there were that many calories in raspberries my toddler would be barrel shaped. Fortunately there aren’t!

PinkHeart5914 · 07/01/2019 20:59

250g raspberries = 250 calories, x 3 = 750 calories In what world is that correct, do you cover yours in chocolate? My Sainsbury’s raspberries are 32 calories per 100g so nowhere near that amount of calories

ENormaSnob · 07/01/2019 21:30

What a selfish cow.

She sounds hideous.

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