A hug and a good luck to all the parents with children that find it difficult going back to school after holidays

[toolazytothinkofausername]

I have to wake my children in 20 minutes and there is a strong possibility they will not want to go :( (Both ASD)

I guess I just have to take a deep breath and keep going!

For everyone else in the same position, a hug and a good luck x

That’s a kind thought. Thank you from me. I’m sure it’s going to be a tough morning here.

I don't know how it is going to go yet. Both mine entered school last year from being home educated (yr 4 and 2) and while they both wanted to go, have had wobbly days. By the time the hols came around they were having a ball, but a fortnight off may have changed that. 😬

My ds1 is 15 and still struggles first day back. It doesn’t help that he finds it hard to fall asleep the night before so he’s tired and stressed and probably anxious about it all. I feel mean ushering him out of the door when I’d love to say, it’s fine, stay home!

Thanks.
We have our weekly camhs therapy before my dd15 goes in today.
She’s currently laying across my bed looking like she’s not moving anywhere for toffee today.

I’ve been trying to get DS out of bed since six. He needs to leave by 8 (so do I). 🙄

Thank you @toolazytothinkofausername, good luck to you too (and everyone else in this situation). We had major wobbles Saturday and Sunday, fingers crossed for this morning.
Breathe, and remember you're not alone.

Good luck toolazy. DD (13) went back last Thursday and was awake most of the night before. He wasn’t too bad in the morning but he was very quiet and tense. Luckily DD was home from uni so she sat with him in the morning and chatted to him as a distraction. This has been one of the better returns to school since year 7.

Hope everyone’s DCs have a good day

We're struggling here too. My ds has only just got up and we need to leave in 10 minutes. I know he really doesn't want to go, he had terrible anxiety about all weekend, but he's not staying off!

Ds is still in bed. He is autistic amongst other things and has been so relaxed tne last week. Now he is refusing to get up. We have to go out in half an hour for him to be on time so that ain’t happening!

Thankyou and good luck to you too. I'm in the same boat as you, eldest is sat on my bed saying he doesn't want to go in and youngest has a 'tummy ache'. The last few days they've felt the build up and have been very wobbly.

I remember my youngest screaming first day back at playgroup.i used to have to turn my back and walk away.it was better for him in the long run,it made going to school easier in the end.

cpl24805254 my youngest was absolutely fine going to playgroup, but she's now an anxious 13 year old girl who finds school pretty overwhelming. The constant demands to perform wear her down and friendships are a constant battle. So I'm afraid nothing I could have done during the playgroup years would have helped today.

Our very sensible head-teacher has instituted a late start on the first day of each term, which makes today easier. But she's still in bed and I need to go and get her moving. Hugs to everyone with anxious and overwhelmed children.

Sadly for many of our children a ‘normal’ just walk away approach won’t do anything except make things even worse

Mine aren’t back till tomorrow (Inset Day) but middle DD with autism will not like it one bit. I have an elder DD and a toddler DD to sort out, two drop offs and then get myself across town to Uni on 2 buses. This week is going to be hard.

My son (ASD) generally doesn’t want to go to school (year 11).

This morning he was so excited to go he got up at 4am. He’s gone off in his taxi, basically speaking in tongues.

God speed, school...

Well said Sirzy. I actually think its verging on cruel to do that to a child in distress at secondary/primary school if we as parents know they have anxiety.

Behaviour is winding up here in anticipation of tomorrow. 3/4 are delighted to go back and see their friends. 1/4 (ASD) doesn’t have any friends and doesn’t understand why I won’t home-educate her...

good luck everyone - we've managed to get up and dressed which I'm pleased with. I'm just about to broach getting in the car.

We only do 1 hour at school, with a late start, with a 1:1 and not in the classroom.

I currently have an anxious dd13 who has a kind of 'background anxiety' according to a special paediatrician who were just referred to.

I'm confused as to what this really means, but she spent the Autumn term having lots of mini panic attacks in the form of visual disturbances that only lasted a few seconds (dr admits he's a bit stumped by it).
She was a very confident child who never worried about a thing and actively chose to stand out from the crowd in her likes and views. Now, she's very insecure, unsure of herself and full of self doubt. It's horrible.

Luckily I have no problem getting my dcs (ds in Y7) out of the door in the morning but I do slightly dread dd especially returning home as I don't know if she's had a good or bad day. I feel like I'm always on a bit of a tightrope.

My DD(7) isn't back until tomorrow. Since Wednesday we've had broken sleep with her waking up around 2am for several hours. Crying about going to school, tummy pains etc.

This started in September when she started Yr2 but by the end of term in December she was going into school happily. I hope we're not going to be back to square one.

Good luck everyone!

cpl24805254 that wouldn't have worked for either of mine, and I would refuse to do it, full stop tbh

dd 13 is in first year secondary. She seemed to settle in ok when she started but now that the novelty has worn off she says she has no friends etc. I think (hope!) they are finding their feet and that it will settle down for her.
She asked for nurofen this morning and is complaining of a tummy-ache. But she went in ok. I am watching my phone in case she needs to be collected!
I wish it was all easier for them...