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Would you ghost or tell him to fuck off?

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Ghostornot · 06/01/2019 00:39

About 6 months ago I got talking to a man at a bar, he seemed ok, wasn't immediately attracted to him but he asked for my number and I thought I would give it a chance.

He started texting quite frequently, was nice enough but I didn't really feel a spark, again hard to know over text message, we had a few conversations on the phone and arranged to meet up. We had a really good night out in a local pub and I was feeling more positive about carrying on talking to him etc. For the next few weeks we were texting and speaking to each other on the phone etc and he was asking when I was next free to go out for dinner. We had arranged a date for two weeks away but one Tuesday he mentioned he was free that night and I had a sporting event cancelled so I called him and asked him if he wanted to go for a quick drink that night. He sounded a bit weird and said 'oh i've never been asked out by a woman before lololol' but said he would love to come.

I had just arrived at the pub that night when he sent me a text message 'sorry can't make it something came up'. That was the last I ever heard from him! I text him and said I hoped everything was ok. No reply. I text once more two days later and again no reply. He deleted me from facebook, instagram etc about an hour after the last text. Completely ghosted.

Low and behold he's just text me 'hello stranger, long time no see, how was your xmas' Hmm

I'm torn between completely ghosting him back or sending him a text telling him to fuck off. Veering towards fuck off at the moment. But would probably regret giving him the time of day in the morning.

Thoughts?

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Cookit · 06/01/2019 07:53

It's a numbers game, men send these texts to loads of women knowing that someone will reply. He probably won't give a toss about anything you say that is negative or if he gets no reply at all, he is just casting his net to see who responds & either be his victim again or take his crumb of attention.

Oh God yes. It’s just like a scam email. 1% of people will fall for the story of the rich Nigerian prince who needs to use your bank account.
He’s probably sent a hello stranger text to five people at the same time.

brick15 · 06/01/2019 08:12

Just ignore and block, he will have sent that to most of his female contacts 🙄 , what a dickhead!

WrapAndRoll · 06/01/2019 08:28

"You rudely blocked and ignored me and now think I'd want to chat? I don't think so!"

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brusselsproutfan · 06/01/2019 08:56

Oh I definitely wouldn't ignore id find it totally wasteful to I'd prob send a message what a chancer he is or telling him to fuck OFFFF

SummersB · 06/01/2019 09:07

Definitely “who’s this?” - my friend had a vaguely similar dilemma recently and that’s what she opted for. It acknowledges that the message was received so the sender doesn’t think it got “lost” and at the same time clearly demonstrates their insignificance. Great answer!

Ghostornot · 06/01/2019 09:55

I didn’t reply Smile

Got a ????? about 45 mins after the first text and realised how good it felt just ghosting him in return

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JennyHolzersGhost · 06/01/2019 10:09

Grin nice work OP.

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