Handhold please! DS is going clubbing for the first time *lighthearted* kind of...

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DS turned 18 over Christmas, tonight him and his friends (only some are over 18) are catching the train into our nearest town at midnight to go clubbing.

They will be sober going in so I’m not so worried about him getting stupidly drunk, more other idiots about and young lads looking for trouble. I know I won’t sleep until he’s home, my lanky, skinny, lovely lad who despite my protestations is still pretty wet behind the ears.

This is harder than when they were little! Any tips for letting go? I suspect this is going to become a regular things so I need to get used to it and quickly!

Midnight? What's the point? completely misses point lol

Just have a glass of wine and try to watch something. He will be home. Before you know it. Drunk and crashing into things being very loud.

But if some of his friends are under 18 they might not all get in anyway so he might be home much earlier than expected.

I feel your pain. My lanky, nerdy 18 year old went clubbing for the first time a few months ago.. I was beside myself worrying and whilst dh snored beside me I lay awake until I heard him cow in at 4.30.
The next morning I asked how it went. He replied "it was awful, it was smelly, the floor was sticky and I hate beer" 😂
He's not been again.
Try and relax he will be fine.

It’s such a worry. Trust that you can trust him. He’s with friends.
But yes. Wine is a great idea!

I think he is a well behaved teenager if he is only going out sober into a club and coming home til midnight ! You have got a responsible one there.

When I was 16 (in the 90s) I was going out to all night raves....

Sounds like he is pretty sensible and not a wild one so try not to worry !

Oh just seen they are going out at midnight ! Ha sounds more fun. He is an adult now time to make mistakes and enjoy them when they happen...he has reached 18 without causing you trouble he is probably fine to be trusted now

Aw OP it's hard. Go to bed, leave out the paracetemol and make him a fry in the morning.

'And did you meet someone nicer than yourself?' was my mum's line

You should defo watch that Inbetweeners episode where they go clubbing in London

Bloody hilarious and will totally set your mind at rest

He's not wearing trainers is he ?

Remember to hoover early in the morning. And offer some fried eggs!!

Haha I think he is wearing trainers actually! The train station is a 20 minute walk away and he is wearing a long sleeved T shirt! It’s about 3 degrees outside!
They decided to catch an earlier train at 10.30 so he’s probably there by now, he had the rules given like stick together, watch your money and your phone and be sensible with drink.
I was living away from home at his age, my mother wouldn’t even have known where I was! This letting go is harder than I thought it would be. I’ve only just got used to him driving, now there’s clubbing! We haven’t had the girl stage yet, it’ll come no doubt. I’ll be grey.

Yes I get it - it's the next thing to get used to. My DD goes clubbing in London - they tend to go earlier as it's cheaper entry and never buy drinks as they're too expensive for them. So they tend to do 'pre's' or 'prinks ' ( pre drinks) at a friends house first.

I always get her to text me when she's on her way home ( even though she doesn't get in till 4am or so). Often some McDonalds may have been consumed on the way back. And she might sometimes go and sleep at a friends house. But she always lets me know.

I've never heard of any problems for the boys or girls on their way home and she's been doing it for a year. They just observe some simple rules of looking after each other on the way back.

Don't worry OP it will be fine. Just the next stage.

It's horrible - been there for 3 years now and has got marginally easier but I will never stop worrying. Two of mine are doing it now. I feel totally resentful that dh goes fast asleep while I lie awake.

Well he’s just come in, I was downstairs making a cuppa anyway as DH is snoring like an absolute pig - he doesn’t seem at all worried about DS!
DS is fine, slightly tipsy and happy and he’s had a great night, bumping into friends he hasn’t seen for a while. So glad he’s enjoyed although he says he won’t do it very often as he was annoyed he’d spent £50 including train and taxi home which is a lot on his apprentice wage. Welcome to the real world son!

I'm glad he had a good time!

DD18 has just come in. I'll be up in 2 hours
The joys of being young!