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What does it mean when you just...can’t be bothered?

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MissyCooper · 05/01/2019 20:41

I have felt this way since New Year’s Eve.

Staring down the barrel of another year and...I just can’t be bothered.

I have a four year old and an 18 month old and an insanely busy job and a house to do up. I am a busy person.

And yet I feel bored and demotivated and I don’t know what it is I want to do.

Urgh. Anyone else ever felt like this? Like they just...can’t?

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adultcat · 05/01/2019 20:49

I guess you could call it 'January blues'... I always feel there's pressure at new year to make resolutions / achieve shit I didn't last year (or the year before that!). It's cold, it's dark, and the build up excitement of Christmas has gone! Ooh, I sound a barrel of laughs don't I!
But, seriously, if you've been feeling like this a while then could you be suffering with depression of any kind? I'm trying to write myself lots of motivational lists to tick off but honestly, I can't wait for spring now!!

Singlenotsingle · 05/01/2019 20:52

Time for a holiday. A week somewhere cheap in the sun.

workschmurk · 05/01/2019 20:53

Oh Missy me too. Have zero motivation, particularly at work. I just cannot be bloody arsed with anything. Cannot put my finger on why and don't know how to shake this shit!

Standstilling · 05/01/2019 20:57

Me too. I saw the word ‘acedia’ for the first time the other day - listlessness that isn’t quite depression. Some really good articles about it if you google.

BitOutOfPractice · 05/01/2019 20:57

Oh lord I had this for about 3 months last year. It's a horrible feeling. Wet to my GP in the end and he ran loads of bloods to see if was something like vit D or thyroid etc but they were all fine. I was almost disappointed that there wasn't something to put my finger on Blush

My GP thought it could be depression. Does that resonate with you?

Whatever it is I hope you feel brighter soon Thanks

RussellSprout · 05/01/2019 20:58

I was about to start a post saying similar.

I literally can't be bothered to do anything, apart from go to bed and read or surf the net. Everything is boring... especially me.

I'm not sure if it is mild depression, I've been through a very unsettling few months and am currently unemployed with my career in the shitter.

I just want to go to bed and sleep for a very long time and wake up in spring.

Hoping to pull myself out of the rut somehow, but I'm not sure how.

jessstan2 · 05/01/2019 20:59

Tiredness, a low level depression. It may pass soon, I hope so.
Feel much the same but been there before, life goes on and there will be good things.

In the meantime, Flowers and a little Wine.

myusernameisnotmyusername · 05/01/2019 21:01

I've also been feeling like this these last few days. I have just finished therapy for anxiety just before Christmas so wondered if it was that but I don't think it is. I just feel like I'm going through the motions and want to just go to bed and read. Started back at work this week and been really tired every day.

shecamefromgreece · 05/01/2019 21:05

I feel exactly like this too.
I don't know what it is, I don't think it's depression I've been depressed before and this is something different.
I'm hoping I may feel better next week when nursery and school start again.
I'm going to make myself get out of the house and into the fresh air I feel like I need to get moving even though I really can't be bothered!

dolliebauble · 05/01/2019 21:06

Yep me too and don't know how to change it.

GeorgeTheHippo · 05/01/2019 21:08

January blues. Look at your self care. Go for a walk every day and eat less crap?
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myusernameisnotmyusername · 05/01/2019 21:11

I do second going for a walk. We didn't go for one until New Year's Day and I felt ten times better.

workschmurk · 05/01/2019 21:12

Comforting to know I'm not the only one. It's such a crap feeling and I have nothing to be depressed or sad about. My life is a good one so why can't I feel good about it all

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MissyCooper · 05/01/2019 21:20

I don’t think it’s depression. It’s just an overall feeling of apathy. Like I just want to hibernate. I’m constantly exhausted.

I was running before Christmas and lost a stone between October and December. I’ve put a couple of pounds back on and I need to get back out but I just can’t seem to find it in me.

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BitOutOfPractice · 05/01/2019 21:24

It's ironic isn't it? You know a run will do you good with your can't-be-botheredness. Yet you just can't be bothered. I was just the same

snoutandab0ut · 05/01/2019 21:28

I feel like this all the time and have done for years. But I do have depression. I have no answers, it would be great to know how to get out of it

workschmurk · 05/01/2019 21:34

Really want to snap out of if but don't know how to or even if it's possible! I literally and simply cannot be arsed......

bluetongue · 05/01/2019 21:39

I’ve had depression before and felt like you have described just before Christmas. It was definitely not the same as depression, more like end of year mental exhaustion.

I had 5 days in a row off work over Christmas. Even though I really needed to get paint tester pots and chose a paint colour for the painters doing my place in January it just seemed too big a task. Even when I tried to read I couldn’t keep my eyes open!

In the end I just ended up taking loads of naps during the day and it seemed to do the trick. I feel much better now and I even managed to pick a paint colour in the end Smile

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MissyCooper · 05/01/2019 22:21

Yes there is an irony. I even bought new running shoes in the sales to see if it would spur me into action. But no.

This is the week.

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