Feeling sad

[Mississippilessly]

Very sleep deprived with 16 week DS. He has just gone to bed and as we are following SIDs advice so are we.
Made the mistake if going on Facebook. People seem so happy. A friend gave birth a month after I did. The photos are lovely. I cant seem to take good ones. I saw her wedding pics, they are gorgeous. I hated our wedding. We rushed the planning, there was a fight, I hate theohitis as we got non-professional friend to do them and they are crap.

Just feeling really low.

• our photos

No one?

I have unfollowed SIL as her feed is full #makingmemories beautiful photos and I can't stomach it anymore.

Why are you going to bed?

There's a word for these people on Facebook. Liars! No one is perfect. Perhaps they're secretly jealous of some aspects of your life too.

Don't compare your insides with other peoples outsides

I have lovely photos on Facebook of my 4 week old, days out, cuddled by his big brothers etc etc. It doesn’t mean he sleeps. In reality I haven’t had a full night in 6 years now between 4 kids.

You know they’re only putting their ‘best bits’ on Facebook? It’s not their day to day reality.

It's all an illusion, don't assume other people are living a perfect life. Everyone has days were they feel miserable but hopefully they don't last long. You have a beautiful newborn DS. Sleep when you can and avoid Facebook, it's not a competition!

That’s why I don’t use social media anymore!

My wedding photos cost me loads and I had a screaming match with my dais on the day and my other dsis abusive prick DH tried to ruin the reception. But from the photos everyone would think I had a fairytale wedding.

Nobody usually puts the nightmare on Facebook they always put the fairytale.

Aw - don’t go on Facebook or instagram. They all lie! It’s just a snapshot.

Your post is so relatable. Everyone has felt like this: it is crap when babies don’t sleep, and when it feels like the world is having fun and got their shot together but you don’t.

Just hang in there

The way you're feeling isn't unusual. Sleep deprivation and the exhaustion of recent weeks have had time to really accumulate by this stage!

Facebook isn't much like real life, it's often very selective, even shallow. So don't read too much into it. Your life is as good as everyone else's and you aren't obliged to provide photos to prove it.

If you feel you would like better photos of your DC, could you book a session with a professional? Have any friends or relatives taken photos of your wedding that they could send you?

Sorry to hear there was a fight at your wedding, that's a real shame. However, you can't change the past. Could you get some treats in the diary to look forward to, so you aren't mulling over the past so much?

Obviously PND can strike at this time for some, so chat to your health visitor and GP as necessary.

Thanks all - you are all right of course.

I think I will try a different GP. Mine didnt really listen when I said I was feeling down.

Bless you xxx
I went to bed when my baby did for a few nights just to catch up and napped in the day when he did. Freshair and walks helped me plus joining baby groups got chatting and found I wasnt alone.

You are honest and real, chin up sweetie you have lots to look forward too xxx

I remember that stage so well. It's so hard. Everyone in the world seems to be having fun and you feel sleep deprived and like your life will never be easy again.,

It gets better! Ignore the fakeness on Facebook and give yourself a break!

He has woken every hr tonight so lots of opportunity to mull! Feels like I will never sleep again.

Don't listen to FB! I know so many people who moan about their lives, they are short of money, their baby isn't sleeping, they have all sorts of emotional issues. But on social media they are all #blessed #makingmemories married to #bestfriend and #lovedup, and all that vomit-inducing nonsense. It will pass. Do you have someone that you could ask for help so you could take a bath or a nap and feel human for a bit? It would probably help loads.