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My kids are driving me up the wall

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DavetheCat2001 · 04/01/2019 12:38

DS (8 in 10 days) and DD (5) are driving me batty.

DD is what could be described as a 'lively' child with no volume control and is hard work from morning till night. DS is easier but can get very silly and loud, particularly when goaded or wound up by his sister. They are constantly vying for 'top dog' and everything is a competition..it's exhausting.

This week has been hellish..DD has a rash on her back that looks suspiciously like it could be Chicken Pox, however she is showing no other signs - fever/malaise etc..in fact she is gobbier and 'livelier' than ever.

They are constantly fighting/bickering/telling tales on each other 'MUMMEEEEEE he/she did this/hit me/took that/won't share blah blah'..if not this then they are rampaging about the place screaming and hollering...my poor neighbours downstairs.

I have been taking them out, and DS went to forest school yesterday so was out climbing trees/running about/building dens all day. DD (as she is rashy) I have been cautious in taking out although this morning I did take them both down to the local shop as I was ready to punch a hole through the wall with the noise and bickering.

DS has a friend coming over in an hour to play on his new Nintendo Switch..a favour to his mum who needs her DS watching for a few hours..this would all be fine except DD acts up and behaves really badly whenever DS has a friend over. She will not leave them alone to play, and wants attention constantly, particularly from the friend.

My plan is to try and keep her occupied with crafty sets she got for Xmas in the kitchen with me and let the boys play in the front room, but from experience this never works for long as she is desperate to get involved with whatever the boys are doing, and will disrupt their game etc and gets really OTT (think taking her clothes off and strutting about in her pants etc).

As she is rashy, I am not inclined to invite anymore kids over (DS's friend has had CP and I have pre-warned the mum who is fine), and to be honest we live in such a small space I think I'd lose my shit completely with 4 kids in the house Confused.

The weekend will be ok as OH will be here and we have plans - cinema, friends over for lunch on Sunday etc, but I am just dreading this afternoon...

Just wanted to vent...I'm a bit of a useless mother really..I'm tired, have the period from hell and have a short fuse, however my shouting at them has no effect as they are so used to me shouting, they just look at me, laugh and carry on. I suffer with depression and anxiety and the constant noise and chaos really gets to me and I just want to walk out and not come back.

I think I am Christmas-fatigued, and want them back at school and some peace and quiet.

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losenotloose · 04/01/2019 13:32

I feel the same. Dc are 12 and 10. I've been stuck with them on my own for the majority of the last 2 weeks, and they've been going to bed late so no break in the evening.

They only seem to have 2 modes, bickering or running around like animals. And ds2 talks at me nonstop. He seems to have to narrate everything constantly. It's been a nice break but I've had enough now!

DavetheCat2001 · 04/01/2019 13:33

Ugh.. I was hoping (naievely) that it might het better....😩

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hidinginthenightgarden · 04/01/2019 13:40

Same here!
I have had enough! Told DH I need a few hours away tomorrow as I have snapped on more than one occasion over the holidays.
I am compassion fatigued to the max!

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DavetheCat2001 · 04/01/2019 14:11

My DD has the attention span of a gnat. I have got tons of stuff out for her to do, and after 5 mins of painting she is bored and has gone to bother the boys...

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Juanbablo · 04/01/2019 14:19

I think we are all over the holidays now. DC's are 11, 8 and 4 and there have been some terrible fights. I'm not feeling 100% and dh has been away since Sunday. I'm pre menstrual and exhausted so I'm not being super fun. I had my friend's 3 DC's here for a few hours as she needed them looking after. That helped break my DC's up as they had other kids to play with. Ds1 went out on his bike for a bit. I've invited MIL over this afternoon. I'm just limping on through till tonight when dh gets home. I highly doubt he will be any more help than usual over the weekend though.

DavetheCat2001 · 04/01/2019 14:59

Bloody hell Juan...6 kids in my home would finish me off!

I've fed them all pizza and ice cream, and persuaded DD to paint a pet food bowl for 5 mins, but she's already showing signs of boredom and so expect her to be off again soon.

Sigh...I'm doing Dry January too so can't even look forward to a cold bottle of Pinot this evening!

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Napssavelives · 04/01/2019 15:01

Same , I’m so over the holidays

Santaisfastasleepatlast · 04/01/2019 15:02

I text from not the wall but the light fitting.
We have 6 dc at home, roll on Monday is all I can say.

Jellycatspyjamas · 04/01/2019 15:06

I could have written this, my two are 5 and 7, they’re either fighting with each other, stuck to me like glue or making a mess - this morning I had to confine then to their respective bedrooms to get a shower and even then I was interrupted 4 times in 10 minutes. I need them both back at school and in a routine again.

Dry January, I’ve no idea why any parent would inflict that hell on themselves!

DavetheCat2001 · 04/01/2019 15:08

I do it every year as my reliance on wine to get through scares me at times.

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happytoday73 · 04/01/2019 15:08

we have the same cabin fever...I have escaped back to work leaving DH in charge.... Grin

Igottastartthinkingbee · 04/01/2019 15:12

Oh my god I needed this thread! Just back from another overnight stay visiting friends and both kids have been in tears/tantrumming. DS (6) got told off for being naughty at our friends (unusual behaviour for him) so has had a Christmas present taken away (temporarily). DD (4) has been tantrumming on and off the whole way home because she didn’t want to leave and then transferred her tantrum to protesting about not being allowed to scream blue murder out in the freezing cold (couldn’t leave her out there cause we’d have had to leave the door open to keep an eye on her cause it’s open to the main road).

I know they need a few quiet days which they’ll now have but I think we need some normality back. Every night in their own beds should help too. But my god they, but mostly DD, have been hard this holiday. Thanks for making me feel not so alone!!!!

DavetheCat2001 · 04/01/2019 15:17

Glad it's not just me either!

Managed to get DD watching The Highway Rat on my laptop in the kitchen, and plying her with snacks ( which helps). Finding it quite theraputic to document all this!

OH is taking them for lunch and then the cinema tomorrow so I will have a few blussful hours of solitude (apart from the cat)... cannot wait! 🙌🏻

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Pinkyponkcustard · 04/01/2019 15:19

It’s not just you op - I was at soft play this morning and all the parents were saying how strung out their kids are. Weather and Christmas fatigue and all that!

DavetheCat2001 · 04/01/2019 15:32

I don't think in the 8 years I've been a mother, I've ever really got used to the idea!

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formerbabe · 04/01/2019 15:40

Christmas holidays have seemed so much longer this year as they broke up from school pretty late...then it was Christmas day a couple of days later...so a long time with post Christmas blues and cabin fever!

Naicethings · 04/01/2019 15:47

Thanks for the thread; glad I am not alone. Thing is, I look forward to the time off work, from what is quite a stressful job, and then I end up even more stressed out at home. I then feel guilty that I am wound up etc etc. Photos on social media don't help, when everyone seems to be having a hassle free time!! Still, I have Luther to look forward to tonight...

DavetheCat2001 · 04/01/2019 16:11

I'm sure the pics I put up on FB over Xmas tell the opposite story to what is actually going on!

I think as well, you are surrounded by friends and family for the first week, and then BOOM...it's all back down to you..

Well my DS's friend's mum should be picking up up at 4.30pm so nearly there. To be fair the boys have been fine, it's DD who is the issue!

Kept her busy playing snap for the past half an hour or so, but now she's bored with that and back off to pester the boys!

Yes to Luther tonight!

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Juanbablo · 04/01/2019 17:07

Dave I'm used to having several more kids here and I don't mind it because it means mine are occupied and not torturing each other! But I am very tired this evening. Desperate for a break.

2019HereWeCome · 04/01/2019 17:58

Same here. Tuesday can't come soon enough!

My dc often play lovely together but they get very giddy (my eldest is beginning the assessment process as we and his school suspect some form of adhd/possible high functioning autism so as soon as they start more active games they're pretty much bouncing off the walls) and screechy. The house is messy (not overly so but enough to annoy me) and I can't get on with anything because as soon as I do, whether I'm trying to do housework or something more creative related to my hobby, they need something or fall out over something or something gets knocked over and broken or someone just throws a strop.

I just want a rest and to not be 'on duty' for a few hours!

SandettieLightVesselAutomatic · 04/01/2019 20:05

Well this thread fill me with joy and dread. Shock

My two are not yet in school but quite capable of winding each other up. One is LOUD and relentlessly energetic from the moment he wakes to the moment he sleeps. The other is going through a horribly tantrummy, clingy phase and is a shit sleeper. I'm knackered and ill.

Here's me telling myself it'll get easier when they get older and here are you wrung out parents showing me what my future holds. Grin

OP, I also struggle with anxiety and feel the urge to run and not look back. The noise and constant demands and everyone shouting drives me barmy. I hope you've survived your day with house and mind intact!

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