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Thoughts About Watsapp

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Christmasfairy07 · 03/01/2019 23:30

I am what you might call a Watsapp virgin. And because I haven’t been using it very long, I am unfortunately driving one of my friends mad by starting a new group every time I want to say or organise something instead of sticking to the same thread. I wondered if that was why another friend left immediately after I started a group to say Merry Christmas but I did think it was rude not to post first then leave. Still, I have been having problems with this friend so she may have left purely because it was me! Some months back she asked me not to include her in texts or Watsapp & she would let me know when she was free for coffee but I took that to mean ones where she was being invited somewhere. And it was kind of rude to the others in the group too so perhaps I shouldn’t take it personally. Can anyone identify with any of this? I am going to stick to a single group message from now on 🙂

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ISdads · 03/01/2019 23:35

Lolz

I would block you forever, so she is being kind

lattesforlife · 03/01/2019 23:37

Yup. Sorry, I’d of blocked you by now too.....

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Christmasfairy07 · 03/01/2019 23:38

Would you have posted Merry Christmas then left seeing as other friends had done so?

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Christmasfairy07 · 03/01/2019 23:39

Posted not left I meant

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AnneLovesGilbert · 03/01/2019 23:45

No. I wouldn’t want to encourage you.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 03/01/2019 23:52

I dint really understnd why you started a bew group every time.

It just seems l8ke a really really odd thing to do. Surely you know how to text on smart phones you get a thread of messages.

As for not saying anything, i dont even reply to everything in a single thread, i wouldnt think i wiuld need to reply to every message in a group.

elQuintoConyo · 03/01/2019 23:55

You made a whatssap group just to say merry Christmas? Just write it to one person then copy and paste it to other friend in your contacts list.

I have about 6 groups:
DS' school
My work
2 mum friends (from a different school to my son)
2 mates who i meet for coffee
2 mates who used to live in my town but moved (one to North America, one to South!)

And there'll be random birthday groups that I leave about a week after the party (once everyone has posted photos).

I never post GIFs.
I never forward short films (even HNY ones).
I never post stuff about the environment/cat shelters/save the whales/political shit.

That's what FB is for Grin

Redglitter · 03/01/2019 23:57

Id block you if you added me to groups constantly too. Your friend has specifically asked you not to do it yet you did. You need to stop the group chats

ChocolateCard · 03/01/2019 23:58

Ha ha! You must drive them mental.

But, no I wouldn’t block you for it Smile

doctorbarbie · 04/01/2019 00:06

Sounds like you have a different understanding of what the group function is for to most. It's not generally used to send group messages as you would via text e.g I might send a happy new year message to a group of people on text but I wouldn't use the group function on WhatsApp for that.

On WhatsApp, the groups are used for group conversations. So one for group of people from school, one for group of people from work etc. I wouldn't set up lots of different groups containing the same people.

Try not to get offended if people leave groups. Especially, if it's for reasons you described as most people would do the same.

Ethel80 · 04/01/2019 00:34

I've got a few groups with friends, some where we message daily and others where people pop up every month or so.

Then the only other time we have groups is to plan stuff like weekends away or surprise birthdays etc

I hate being added to random groups and often leave them. Like the time a friend set up a WhatsApp group to announce her and her husband were trying for a baby. Fuck off!

@Christmasfairy07 Dial it back a little bit, don't create endless groups, don't send messages at 3am because some people are silly enough not to silence their phone at night and send one message not 10 one liners. That will hopefully ensure that you don't piss off all your family and friends.

Enjoy!

Bigonesmallone3 · 04/01/2019 00:35

I cannot bare group chats

FloofenHoofen · 04/01/2019 00:52

Lol she asked you not to add her to any groups and you did anyways because you thought she didn't mean that? This is why your friend has been rude, because you've ignored her request.
How do you not see it?

ExFury · 04/01/2019 04:11

Constant group creating is why I blocked a friend of mine. Everyone in the group can see each other’s phone numbers and I don’t particularly want my number available her zillion friends every time she starts another group

Sewrainbow · 04/01/2019 08:18

Not everyone can silence their phone overnight.

I was on call new years eve for work, trying to sleep as was dh. I then had a frantic mute session on WhatsApp as suddenly random alerts for messages kept disturbing us.

carlecomedian · 04/01/2019 08:21

Groups are for groups of people, not subjects. You're using it like email. It is not email.

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Christmasfairy07 · 04/01/2019 10:42

Thanks everyone. The 2nd friend I mentioned asked me back in May not to add her to any texts or Watsapp & I respected her wishes. When it came to December, she was added to a Christmas meal thread by a mutual friend & I then thought I would add her to my birthday thread because I hadn’t seen her in months & wanted to include her in the celebrations. She did reply, although couldn’t make it, and also on a “ Christmas cake & coffee” thread which was another friend’s suggestion but that I created. I had texted during the summer but only to wish her daughter’s a Happy Birthday ( the oldest is in DD’s class) & I was a bit upset that she didn’t reply to those messages. I think basically it’s a case of me trying to fix something where actually there might not even be a problem. I keep putting off having a chat to her & this is obviously the best way to find out what’s going on. The first friend I mentioned has been upfront about how annoying all the groups are, which I am grateful for!

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StoorieHoose · 04/01/2019 10:48

If you don’t know how to use it and you are getting upset about who replies and who doesn’t, I don’t think you are cut out for using WhatsApp so you would be better deleting it.

ChocolateCard · 06/01/2019 10:49

Groups are for groups of people, not subjects. You're using it like email. It is not email

This!!!

Mousewithascarf · 06/01/2019 11:54

If you want to send the same message to lots of people you can just send it to one person then copy it to others. As PPs have said groups are for groups people usually with something in common (in same interest class/club), people you go for coffee with every Monday afternoon etc etc. I’d imagine you decide together that starting a group chat is a good idea rather than it being a unilateral decision and adding someone to it without telling them.

I love WhatsApp for keeping in touch with family and friends and the free phone calls abroad is brilliant. Definitely would hate to be without it but before you set up any more group chats make sure others are happy to be included in it.

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 06/01/2019 12:03

Just remember when you are adding people to groups who don’t know each other, you’re sharing her number to strangers. Some (most) people don’t like that.

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