Well, that's a bit shit

[lucysmam]

I thought I'd have a scroll through fb, as you do...my work colleagues have gone to our local pub for drinks with a colleague who left at the start of the Christmas holidays.

Not one of them thought to mention it to me :(

Second time it's happened now. Last time, a night out was mentioned to me because I'd walked right into the middle of a discussion about it without realising

Two of the people who are out are supposedly my friends .

That’s really mean. At least you’re warm at home and haven’t spent any money. Look on the bright side but maybe look elsewhere for real friends.

Think I'll stick to being Billy-no-mates for a while tbh. I used to go in, do my job & come home without getting involved with any of it. I'll stick to that.

Just it's a bit shit really & no one else to moan at so thought I'd do it here.

@Lucysmam - not quite the same but in the week leading up to Christmas everyone at work exchanged our Secret Santa presents - I put mine underneath the tree, nothing ever appeared for me 😥 went back in this week and still nothing - and I know who had my name (the secret work is mission fail year after year) its made me feel really low 😢

It is a bit shit. I’m totally with you. Being left out of these things is isolating and leaves you feeling like crap. Sorry you weren’t invited on your night out. It sucks.

It might have been a spur of the moment meet up. I say this because that happened to me yesterday- I was messaging an ex colleague, who was also messaging someone else, who was messaging someone else...

The ex colleague put a photo of us all on fb, and I did think that other people might have felt excluded if they’d seen it, but it was genuinely a let’s meet in 10 minutes kind of thing.

Shockers, it could but there are about 20 people tagged in various posts, some of them left years ago and would need to arrange accommodation/transport to get there. So I doubt it was.

FairyLight I'm glad we don't do Secret Santa, I can see that happening too if we did.

Bleurgh!

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I'm off to make a brew then tell the girls they should be quieter about sneaking about out of bed

Hang in there lucysmam, I’ve grown to the conclusion that work just won’t be the place to have a bestie 😢 and that many people just don’t think....

Ah- I’m sorry- that is shit.

Ah that happened to me in December. I work somewhere with a lot of people, but there were 6 of us involved in a very specific project (in addition to our normal jobs) that lasted about 4 months. So on top of our usual hours, where we didn't really see one another, we would have around six hours a week working together. Also had group chats etc.
And in December, on Facebook, the other 5 had all gone out for cocktails with someone whon eft the company in July, but who had been involved in the project last year.
I was a bit stunned really.
I commented "how lovely. What a nice evening you all are having. See (most of) you on Monday" - and they all frikken liked it!!!
I decided that life is too short and fuck 'em. I'll decline the work next year and spend time with people who like me.

You're not on your own, OP. I'm with you!!

*who left
Not whon eft

again not the same but my 'gift' was an expired voucher for a meal out. 3 months out of date. I'd complain but my boss is really nice and definitely doesnt know from the way they were gushing to dh about treating us. It gets worse as Im sure they were freebie ones the restaurant hands out to other companies when they first open so not meant for me at all!