If your children bickered a lot when they were small, are they friends now?

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My DD's are 5 and 2.5. They get along well at times and I can see they have a fondness of each other. However, they really do bicker a lot.

My youngest doesn't like people in her personal space and it all comes down to what mood she is in. So at times she'll laugh when my older DD tickles her or other times she'll get angry!

I'm on my own with them a lot so I also wonder if there's an element of my older daughter wanting my attention sometimes.

I'm just wondering, if you had children who bickered when they were small, has their relationship continued that way or have they become closer? It worries me to think that they could be like this forever now.

Really grateful for any replies.

Once youngest starts school it will ease off somewhat but you'll still be referee for a while! My sister & I literally fought like cat and dog when we were younger, I mean like pure frustrated rage hair pulling etc but get on really well now and probably started getting better from secondary onwards x

My brother and I fought constantly, like really awfully. We are very close now.

My dsiss and l fought a lot as kids but played a lot as well. We could go from playing for hours to having an almighty f8ght. My poor parents! But now as adults we are all best friends. We totally have each others back and l really enjoy their company.
My own dc didn't really fight much but all of them sort of did their own thing. Dd was in the middle of two boys and was a complete non fighter so it didn't happen. But l sometimes wonder if they will grow up as close as me with my siblings. When they all come home they get on fine but pretty much lead very independent lives. I nearly think the fighting bonded us together , in that we have been through thick and thin so nothing phases us now.

My 4 DC (2 boys and 2 girls) bickered - they were generally well behaved kids but I couldn't get them to stop bickering. It used to drive me crazy. They played together a lot so it wasn't all bad.
They are now in their 20's and are very close. Even though they are busy with Uni/work etc they make a big effort to see each other regularly It makes me very happy.
They have their own group chat and keep in touch almost daily. I hope they continue to get on so well as they get older.

My DS are (nearly) 16 and 19 and used to bicker, fight, argue ALL the time. It used to drive me mad. They had to take it in turns sitting in the passenger seat as they used to argue in the car.

Now they are best buddies and get along great. Change started happening when the eldest reached about 14/15.

My brother and I have the same age gap and did not get on until we didn't have to live together.

Yes, that's what made the difference for us too. I was always massively thankful that I didn't have to share a room with my sister - I think that would have ruined our relationship permanently.

My childhood best friend and her sister were the worst for bickering. Age gap about 2.5 years so the same as yours and it was constant from the age of 5 to 16. I don’t know how their mum put up with it. Not just verbal but sometimes physical too. It was so bad that it made me glad I didn’t grow up with sisters.

These days they’re the very best of friends and I have the opposite reaction- I almost wish I had a sister because their relationship is so close.

Mine were fab when little but now they are 17, 16, 14 and 12 and they bicker all the time. It drives me up the wall

These days they’re the very best of friends and I have the opposite reaction- I almost wish I had a sister because their relationship is so close.

I could have quite happily done without siblings when I was growing up, but I wouldn't be without them now.

Although I'm not sure that helps the OP!

Nope, still waiting for that to happen here. They're 15 and 19 and still don't get along...

DD and DS used to argue/fight/wind each other up, but they get on really well now and are the very best of friends. Mind you, they are both on their 30s.

My dd’s are 14 and almost 12 (on Saturday!) they bickered, fought, argued throughout the years and still do now (mainly about whose touched whose clothes etc) but also we have lots more moments where I find them in bed together watchinga film or dd1 teaching dd2 how to do her make up (dd1 artistic and does some amazing make up) they do lend each other clothes occasionally although dd1 very tall and slim and dd2 inherited my lack of height!
They are now at secondary school together which did cause a few issues as dd1 loved having her own freedom for 2 years but their school divide upper and lower school so they actually don’t have the same lunch or break time so bar going in and out they actually don’t see each other all day ! Tonight I can hear them doing homework dd2 helping dd1 with maths as she struggles with it and dd1 will help dd2 with language homework so it does happen and I’m sure they’ll be lots more arguing and bickering and squabbling through the teen years but also they have a friendship as well as being sisters now

4 years between me and my sister.
We physically fought, argued and bickered like a pair of feral cats for our entire childhood.
We still don’t get on. We are polar opposites and have nothing in common.
Also my sister likes to point out the flaws she sees in my parenting methods which just makes me want to break her arm all over again

(Disclaimer: the arm breaking was in 2002. I was 8. She was 12. She’d broken my nose with a hefty punch a couple of weeks earlier, so I got my revenge by pushing her off the garden swing )

My older two didn’t ever get along. Now 35-36 and they are polite and respectful but certainly not close or even friendly for that matter.

Mine are almost 11 and almost 7 and spend 90% of their time together fighting. It's at the stage now where we can't have both of them together, so over the holidays I've taken one somewhere else while dh works from home with the other one. Even in their own rooms they still go in each other's to start another fight. I can't bear it anymore. Nothing we do makes any difference. I hate it.

I’ve two DSis and one DB.

DB is a couple of years younger than me and we got on ok when we were little, we barely speak now (different life paths, zero in common), DSis are eight years younger and we get on fine now,the age gap was very noticeable when we were younger and we struggled quite a bit.

My brother and I bickered constantly as kids, progressing to full on arguing in our teens and culminating in me phoning the police to report him for drink driving as young adults (I was 18, he was 20. He threw the keys at me and stormed off once he saw I was actually phoning them and got a taxi).

Now both in our 30’s and while we’ve never had a falling out we just don’t speak. I say hi to him if I see him, we chat at family functions and it’s all perfectly amicable but we just don’t make the effort with each other. He’s seen my kids a handful of times since they were born (eldest about to turn 5).

My 2 (about to be 5 and 3) are pretty close but are very alike. Me and my brother on the hand are polar opposites.

DSis and loathed each other with a vengeance when we were kids (5 years apart). She broke my nose, i once cut her fringe off whilst she slept. How my DPs put up with it i dont know.
Once i left home for Uni we got on much better - now she's one of my best friends!

My kids are 16 and 17 ,the last year or so they got on so much better,they are pretty close and will often choose to do things together.
This happened about 6 months ago,it is such a relief they couldn't be in the same room for a couple of years!

My bro and I bickered all the time. My mother created a very competitive atmosphere and never, ever encouraged love, cooperation etc. We are not friends now.

There's 3 of us. Never got on as kids and don't get on as adults.

I get on better with my brother than my sister, we are just very different. My sister is just awful.

I remember going around to my friends house as a child and the three sisters would have a huge fight. Pulling each others hair etc. Roll on the years and they are the most supportive sisters l know. Go on holiday together, have supported one through cancer, another through divorce. They are just joined together at the hip.

Yes my DSs fought like cat and dog when younger and are best buds now age 16 and 19. It's really lovely to see. They have mutual friends and socialise together happily.
My siblings and I have nothing in common (40s) sadly.