DHs New year's resolutions driving me bonkers!

[mortifiedmama]

He does it every fucking year. Makes a huge deal of his NYR, insists I engage in to "to support him" then doesn't follow through.

Last year was running and healthy eating. He spent a small fortune on running gear and did 3 runs over 12 months. Always an excuse as to why he wasn't doing it regularly. It got to week 7 of c25k before I got pregnant (and running made me feel horrendous) but as I couldn't run 10k like him, I "wasn't as good" despite achieving the aim. I do most of the cooking (fine by me, it's more practical) so adapted our evening meal plans to be healthier, I lost weight, he didn't as he took no care over the rest of his diet, again always an excuse.

Year before it was cycling (did 1 ride by himself and 1 with me) having spent a tonne on a bike and gear.

This year it's kicking his phone addiction. He's deleted almost all his APIs (WhatsApp, slack, fitbit and email are all that's left) and turned off notifications for the ones left. He's been pestering me to delete them too and I've refused which has frustrated to him though I've agreed to use my phone less. Yet today and yesterday I've spent less than 1 hour on my phone and he's clocked 4+ hours! Again, always an excuse as to why.

I know this is AIBU but would IBU to tell him just to stuff any NYR in future?

I never make any!

Apps not APIs!

And there's also been, learning the piano, learning Dutch and Spanish, unicycle and woodwork. Spends a fortune then doesn't even start them!

I’d probably have punched him in the face/divorced him by now 😂 I admire your ability to have kept him alive through this many phases

There's a difference between 'supporting' someone and 'doing it as well'.

Tell him you support HIM in doing it but you've no intention of doing it as well.

Tell him your ny resolution is to give up resolutions!!

He sounds quite controlling tbh...

Don't engage next year; with a bit of luck he won't even bother spending the money getting kitted out if you don't join in from the outset! 😆

YANBU. Does he sell the stuff after he doesn’t use it?

I'd be more pissed off at him trying to engage me in a competition that I wanted no part in anyway... Sounds like an absolute tosser tbh...

Sod that for a game of soldiers!

If he wants to do these things then fine, but why do you have to do them too?! I'd take great pleasure in a) smugly pointing out how much more he's using his phone than me and b) ostentatiously using my phone and chuckling to myself.

His NYRs do not have to be yours. If he doesn't have the willpower to do them himself, that's his own issue.

He sounds like a controlling prat.

Can't you take up something he wouldn't do, tap-dancing, origami, Japanese flower arranging, Am-Dram? Then when he's doing his thing, you can be doing yours. If he complains, mention that he needs to be supporting your sugar craft workshop.

lastqueenofscotland probably just how I've written it, but he isn't at all. Just gets very passionate about an idea and rarely follows through.

LaurieFairyCake yup. He struggles to see that!

Sweetooth92 a jury wouldn't convict be would they

At least this years is not costing anything

Next year encourage the gardening

Next year encourage the gardening

Great idea!

Patio the fucker.

Mine doesn’t do resolutions and still drives me up the fucking wall.

Aspergers ??