Need sone quick advice on separation

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Think me and DH are splitting. Having a talk tonight.
Mortgaged house, 2 DC.
Am I right in thinking that I shouldn't leave the house?
He's suggested (in the middle of a row) that he's not leaving as he's got nowhere to go where as I should take the children and stay with family.
Surely I shouldn't have to uproot them when all their stuff is here?
They are 7 and 20m.

Agree with you. He should leave. Are you main carer?

I agree that he should leave, and that you shouldn't until you have sought legal advice (unless you are unsafe to stay; safety trips everything).

Sadly, there's nothing you can do to make him leave unless there are safety concerns for you or the children. A close friend of mine is coming to the end of a two year acrimonious divorce battle that has happened while they continued to live together with two small children. Absolutely hideous, but if you want to stay in the house then don't leave it. You could end up living in a relatives spare room for several years while you divorce.

Don't leave. Its worse to uproot the kids to a non-permanent solution. Their needs come first and you wont get back in if you leave now. Hold your place.

But it suggests that down the road you may need to sell the house to split the proceeds and each get a new smaller home. If you've been married for a long time then the assumption will be a 50:50 split of all the assets.

Thanks everyone. He's going to move out.

What do I do now? He's got loads of savings and I have none and my wage won't pay the bills. Do I need a solicitor yet if we're not ready for divorce?

Some solicitors give you half an hour's free advice. If you have questions written down before you go in you can cram quite a lot in and it can help make things a little clearer about where you stand.