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Tinder Expectations?

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LumiereLennie · 02/01/2019 18:29

My DSis has recently come out of a long-term relationship (5yrs) with a man child who loved his video games more than her (or himself or anything else). She’s 31, young professional, shy bordering on introverted and following this relationship has pretty low self-esteem. Having been married for a decade, I missed the whole Tinder thing, but my lovely (and very YOUNG) colleagues suggest that it may be the way for her to meet some different people and boost her confidence somewhat. Are they right? Or is it just a bunch of jackasses seeking easy sex?

She will need a little persuading, I think, as she tends to be a bit of a romantic - so any happy ending stories (if they exist) would be gratefully received. Also interested in rules of conduct, reasonable expectations and hints and tips.

My feeing is that it would be a good way for her to dip her toe back into the water but not expect her Prince Charming necessarily!

Thanks in advance!

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LumiereLennie · 02/01/2019 18:49

Ooo, forgot to ask - any other good ways to meet interesting people for her? Work isn’t really an option for her. Thanks!

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PandaPolarBear · 02/01/2019 18:53

Or is it just a bunch of jackasses seeking easy sex?

Mostly this.

I'm sure there are some decent men on there, but they are well hidden amongst the majority who just want sex.

Iaintdonenothing · 02/01/2019 18:55

A few years ago when a uni friend was visiting we were both 'playing' tinder. My mum became curious (age 60, absolute technophobe and quite traditional) and we set her up a profile, a few pictures and bit of a bio. That was four years ago and she's still happily in love with a man she 'swiped' that night.

There is men on there just looking for a ONSbut plenty who aren't - just like if you were to go to a nightclub, meet someone through a friend or any other dating profile. Make sure she knows this as she could get taken back if the first person she meets offers Netflix and chill.

Birdsgottafly · 02/01/2019 18:56

If my DDs experience is anything to go by, she'll get offers (£30) to sell her everyday knickers and (£50) offers for various pictures of her feet.

Personally I thought my DD was stupid to not make a bit of money.

Shell get loads of Men needing a Visa.

Old is quite ruthless. I wouldn't advise it for anyone with low self esteem.

tsonlyme · 02/01/2019 18:56

I met my partner on tinder Blush

There was a real mix on there ime but at least you both had to swipe right to be able to talk unlike other sites (like pof) where any old asshat can message you.

I had my fair share of chancers and sex (only) seekers chat to me but I had a lot of fun and it certainly boosted my confidence after a long marriage.

LumiereLennie · 02/01/2019 21:03

Good info folks! Thanks! Any others?

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