Re Berevement - who is weird, ,me or DH?

[TwigTheWonderKid]

My dad died when I was 19 and my mum died 2 years later. I am now 47. Whilst I have obviously got on with my life, they were great parents, I was an only child, and there are still times when I really miss them and the grief whilst not as raw as it was, can still be strong.

DH lost his younger brother just over 20 years ago when DH was 25 and his brother was 19. His dad (who was incredibly emotionally cold, bordering on abusive) died 15 years ago, Dh think I am strange for still feeling sad and missing my parents and said "They're not there any more so what is there to miss?"

I totally get that everyone's journey is different but am I alone in finding DH's attitude rather bizarre?

My brother died 27 years ago and I grieved for years (privately mainly) . Since then other people; friends and family have died, and I've felt very little. I didn't grieve for my dad at all, but he wasn't a good person.
However I do actually worry now that I've 'spent' all my grief on my brother and am now emotionally cold, but on the other hand maybe I just haven't been as close to anyone since, as I was to him.
Grief (or not grief) is such a personal thing.

It depends, there's no right and wrong and I don't think it is solely dependant upon one thing.

For some people grief is intensely personal and outpourings of grief don't feel natural. I remember losing a pet as a child and feeling bleak, empty shock which was utterly internal and private. My sister howled hysterically and publicly immediately - I felt at the time she was attention seeking and therefore fake. I didn't believe she felt much, I was disgusted, it felt disrespectful and selfish, though I don't think I could have put it into those words at the time - I was about 8 and she was about 6. We'd had roughly the same upbringing, same parents, same biological sex, so who knows why we reacted so differently. Obviously I know now neither response was "right" because there is no right in this context.