Does anyone do very little in the way of activities with their dc?

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I mean days out, cinema trips, that sort of thing.

Two dds aged 11 and 8. We do very little with them. Neither of them do well in busy places and really dislike organised activities. Suits us as we don’t particularly want to be spending money on things they don’t enjoy.

We go on several holidays/short breaks a year and do a mix of active stuff and chilling out. Both spend several hours a week undertaking a certain hobby and are in after school club 5 days a week. Weekends are down time for all of us.

I don’t feel they are missing out (they just aren’t bothered, for example, if they don’t know all the characters in the half term blockbuster). I’m aware, however, that other parents think my dc are missing out and think we’re strange for not doing endless family activities.

If you are doing short breaks then why would you be worried about days out? From the OP it looks like he only thing you are worried about is taking them to the cinema?

One of mine hates movies so we rarely go. I don't feel like they miss out though.

They sound plenty busy to me!

OP: 2019 resolution: Grow a thicker skin!

We don’t tend to do things that cost money. Cinema is a very rare treat.

Well have one day of absolute slobbing out and too much screen time, then we offset it by going for a long country walk or visiting a museum or something.

Depends what downtime means.

If it’s walks in the park, long lunch chatting to each other, drawing, reading, playing then I can’t see an issue.

If it’s endless days of TV and tablets then maybe not so great.

How do other parents know so intimately what you are or aren’t doing with your DC?

As a pp says, learn not to give a damn what others think. Your kids sound happy and engaged in the hobbies/activities they do enjoy.