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DS(12) in a gang

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dssefsdfsf · 31/12/2018 10:53

I think DS(12) has joined a gang, because i`ve seen him with groups and he smokes and has taken drugs before. What can i do to help him please

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TheBaltictriangle · 31/12/2018 10:59

Call the Police on their none emergency number, 101, for advice. He might be known to them already but they'll be able to advise you. Also, maybe ask his school for advice as you want to nip it in the bud before he gets into serious trouble.

flossietoot · 31/12/2018 10:59

Nightmare, stop him loitering and get him into positive activities if you can- does he like sport??

Sarahandduck18 · 31/12/2018 11:00

No going out unsupervised.

Tahitiitsamagicalplace · 31/12/2018 11:01

Don't let him out for a start. Then do what thebaltic said.

DaphneduM · 31/12/2018 11:02

Is there a man in his life that he respects - his father, your dad, a teacher, a member of the family that could talk to him about it? Preferably in such a way that will not escalate the situation? I understand the difficulty with this, as there is massive peer pressure. I certainly would take my time to consider what to do about it - not rush in. My sympathies, what a worry for you.

DelphiniumBlue · 31/12/2018 11:06

Your 12 year old smokes and takes drugs?
Don't let him out alone.
I knows this might be easier said than done if he's used to going out freely, but he needs to be protected, 12 is far to young to be making choices that will undoubtedly have a big impact on his future.
You may need to be providing alternative s, maybe a sports club of some sort that he can be escorted to regularly.
If this was my son, I'd be considering moving to get him away from the area , especially if there's the possibility of gang involvement. I don't think you can treat this seriously enough, it's his whole future at stake, and a good thing you're taking action now.

DaphneduM · 31/12/2018 11:12

Delphinium has a good suggestion about moving him away from the area. I know of a teenage boy from London who now lives with his grandparents in a more rural environment and goes to a local comprehensive school. He hadn't got into trouble, but his parents were very worried about violence to and from schoo. He is absolutely thriving in this situation.

GimmeGimmeHellYeah · 31/12/2018 11:14

Oh yay it's this one again!

Cranky17 · 31/12/2018 12:20

He’s 12 keep him home, or move

Cranky17 · 31/12/2018 12:21

However how do you know it’s a gang or just a group of friends?

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