I’m 10 weeks pregnant with my first child. I’m 21 and have been with my partner for just 6 months. Before the unexpected we were getting on great, when we found out he was constantly changing his mind about keeping the baby but I’d already made my decision. My mother messsged him and asked him to stay away until the scan as I was getting so distressed she thought I’d lose the baby. He’s taken huge offence to this and for the past 5 weeks has caused me nothing but hell. My mother is terminally ill and since I moved back home with her he’s known she will always live with me and she needs my support. He’s now saying I need to live my own life, move away from her and make other family care for her. He’s also trying to make me move to a town near him which is a good 50 minutes away which also means id have to quit my job because of the location it would be impossible to get to by public transport, I’m learning to drive but won’t have the money if he forces me to move. He’s made it clear he doesn’t want my family any where near me but said I need to move closer to him because it’s fair on his family... he’s also decided he doesn’t care how uncomfortable I feel he will be at the Labour and at every scan. My mum is dying so I want her at every scan but he’s said she isn’t welcome because scans are just for us. My brother lost a child to late miscarriage a few years ago, he’s in a good paid job and said he wants to gift me baby things because he wants me to enjoy the pregnancy, and use my money to buy a car so the baby can have the best start. But my partner has accused him of taking over and trying to be a father figure. I have made so much effort with his family and he’s snapped because I refused to see them this weekend. I’ve refused because he will not even talk to my family or come in the house to say hi to my mother so why should I make the effort with his. He’s also threatened to take me to court and said I’ll be the one visiting my child. He said this because I tried to make contact agreements and I said his parents will have to pick the baby up and take them to him because of how much he’s upset my mother and how hostile he’s being he’s not welcome in the home. I did not want him at the first appointment because I was so distressed I thought about an abortion because I felt he was trying to control and isolate me from everyone I love. I just feel he’s going to make both mine and my child’s life hell. He said he will ‘sort out’ anyone who stands in the way of him being on the birth certificate when I never even said he would not be. He said my family don’t love me they are trying to take over and have me exactly where they want me. He said he has power over my family. I will never choose him over family and I will never move away with him but I’m at a loss and so upset he’s making my life hell. I’m having no pregnancy symptoms and feel like little one has already slipped away. I wanted this so much. I thought it would bring my family closer and they were all so excited but he’s made every waking day a nightmare. My friend said this is emotional abuse, would you agree? Just really need some advice, lots of love one desperate mummy 😞