Toddler sleeping habits - help before I go insane

[MummyPigInABikini]

2 year old (just turned 2) DD wakes up at least once a night, I can’t remember a time when she ever slept through. I can set my watch by her waking up.

The only thing that gets her back down is milk, which she instinctively asks for. I dare not try to put her back in her cot, so the quickest thing to do is put her in with me and DP, give her a full bottle of formula and she’ll quickly go back to sleep.

But she’s a fidget and a duvet stealer and I can’t go on. I’m ducking shattered.
Her bedroom is the right temperature, she has a toddler duvet set and wears pyjamas. She eats well - three meals and a snack or two. She has a bottle of milk just after her bath and goes down at 7.30pm easily. She has an hours nap in the middle of the day when with me or a two hour nap if she’s at nursery. I’ve found she’ll wake up regardless of whether she’s had a daytime nap or not.

Where am I going wrong? Can someone tell me it’s a phase? I’m on the knees.

Instead of giving her milk, could you try just giving her water? If you consistently only give her this one option it might not be worth her getting up in the night. I’d probably do a super nanny and keep putting her back in her bed without saying a word too. No reaction, just straight to bed. Think it takes a few times and a sleepless night or two but if you crack it in 2 nights it’ll be worth it!

You aren’t doing anything wrong, this is just what some children do I’m afraid. I absolutely know it’s a pain (we have a 2.5 year old and a 4 year old, each of whom wake at least once a night), but the beat thing to do is to accept this is what it’s like for now, and know you aren’t alone and that it is very, very normal and not your fault (although are you abele to try and switch the milk for water, then leave a water bottle in the cot?).

I hope it improves for you soon.

I'd be stoping the milk it's a habit at that age not a need.