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Relocated and hating it

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Beano100 · 29/12/2018 10:44

This is my first time ever on mumsnet, I thought it would be the best place to get advice so sorry if I’ve put this in the wrong category.

On Tuesday I moved from Kent to Wales and started my new job yesterday, completely different career to what I’m used to. My husband is moving up tonight so I’ve had a couple of days without him which has been hard as we spend so much time together. We decided to move for house prices and finding the country beautiful, if we stayed at home we would of had to move into a flat after moving out of my father in law’s flat but here we were able to get a 3 bedroom semi detached house which we loved as soon as we saw it. However, since I’ve got here all I’ve done is cry because I seriously regret the decision I made to move here. I miss being around everything familiar and my family, I don’t have any family here and they are 3 and a half hours away. I’m struggling to get used to being here and I’m so desperate to go home. My husband is gutted I feel this way because he wants to give it a go and loves it here but I can’t help how I feel. I previously worked in catering and liked my hours on my contract, here I’ve started a job I’ve never done before (jewellery shop) but I’m already feeling like I’m not going to like it. At the moment I have to get up at 6AM to leave at 7AM in order to get the train to work and I don’t get back until 7PM, I’m used to having more time at home in the evenings with my husband. He’s transferring to another jewellery shop. Our old works were much closer to home, only a 10 minute drive. Working full time I don’t feel like I’m going to have any time at all in the evenings and our days off are not guaranteed to be the same. I’m just an emotional wreck right now and have no one to talk to as I don’t really have any friends and all our family want me to give it a go but I just want to go home. I’ve never felt so anxious or depressed in my entire life (we are both 25). I just want to put the house on the market and go back home. What would you do in this situation? We have no children or animals so if we did move back home we wouldn’t haven’t to worry about that. Thank you.

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FortunesFave · 29/12/2018 10:52

It's change OP...it's never easy. But we have to embrace it. In your situation I would give it some time. If you still hate it in a year then reassess. As it is, it's probably just being away from your husband that's stressing you.

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 29/12/2018 10:52

Sorry you are feeling so stressed.
It's only been a few days though OP.
Give it a chance.
Why not try to find some nice things to do locally at the weekend?
You will get to know people and it won't feel so overwhelming. Are there any yoga classes or something you can go along to?

Singlenotsingle · 29/12/2018 11:00

I did the same thing, moved to Wales having transferred with the job. I just rented a room for six months to see if I liked it, living just outside Cardiff. Luckily I didn't sell the house and moved back. The countryside is lovely, I liked being in the valleys but it's strange being away. I would suggest maybe reassess after six months but if you really can't settle, then at least it's only Wales and not Australia! Not too far to come back.

LouMumsnet · 29/12/2018 12:01

OP, hope you don't mind but we're just nipping onto your thread to say we've shifted it over to the Chat topic as we thought you might get a better response. We've also tweaked your thread title for the same reason.

Hope that helps and you get lots of useful advice from MNers who've relocated and found it tricky.

Best of luck with it all.

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