feeling pathetic for worrying about this, but...

[nomorearsingmermaids]

...my wedding is in ten weeks and I'm worried that it will be a bit crap. We only have 50 adult guests coming plus four or five children including our own toddler but DP and I both love dancing (that's how we met) so we are still having an evening do with a DJ etc. Loads have commented that it'll be too small to have a DJ...etc etc...

Then I worry people just won't turn up, they won't like the food, they won't get on (parents are divorced, grandparents are divorced, one of my half sisters is offended by everyone and everything), our DS will be overwhelmed and upset all day. I've really tried not to do the things that I don't enjoy at weddings, so the ceremony is at 2, we sit down to eat at 4, but in the interim while photos are being done etc there will be drinks and canapes and music so guests will be entertained/warm/fed. Not doing loads of long speeches.

I know I am hugely overthinking it and what matters is that we are getting married. Just need a handhold and a kick up the bum I think! It all feels very close this side of Christmas. We haven't spent a shit tonne of money on an enormous fancy do but it's still cost us a fair amount and I feel I'm ruining it by worrying about it!!

People are coming to see you marry as they love you. If there is food and drink and somewhere to sit down/shelter then everyone will enjoy it unless they're a miserable so and so who will never be satisfied.

It sounds simple but relax and look forward to your special day.

Do you have trusty, responsible family members or friends who can be relied on to try to help with/smooth over any minor issues that could crop up?

Do you have trusty, responsible family members or friends who can be relied on to try to help with/smooth over any minor issues that could crop up?

TBH I think this is part of what is worrying me. I love my family and friends dearly but I am always the organised one - the vast majority of the rest of them are away with the fairies.

My wedding was small. Only 30 for the day and a further 30 at night and I was worried it would be crap as we only had Spotify playlists attached to the sound system but it was great. Loads of people dancing by the end and a really good night. I think the fact that you've picked the guests helps so you should have a good group around you. In my case loads of drink was also taken!

I genuinely wouldn't have known who else to ask tbh. Both of us just have a few close friends from different places, we aren't part of big groups. His family is tiny but mine is huge so that's where 70% of the guests are coming from really. They do for the most part all like a drink and a dance.

We only had about 45 people at our wedding, and it was perfect! Granted the church felt a bit empty to me as I walked up the aisle, but as soon as I was beside now-DH l, I honesty couldn't have given a crap. 😆

It'll be fine. I think it's natural to worry. Are you feeling a bit low/tired anyway? It sounds to me like you're slightly run down and just in a slightly anxious mood.

It'll be great.

Are you feeling a bit low/tired anyway? It sounds to me like you're slightly run down and just in a slightly anxious mood.

Yes, yes and yes, you are totally right.

I'm feeling down, and I think it's because I've been drinking like a demon slightly more than usual over Christmas. Alcohol depletes your vitamin B, which can make you feel low, morose, and just a bit sad.

Vitamin B, a bath, an early night, and you'll wake up wondering why you were worried.

Are you me?! You certainly could be. OP I got married 4 days ago, 50 guests, ceremony at 2, food at 4. I was also worried it was going to be a disaster. You know what? It was perfect, I wouldn't have changed a thing. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to stress and just enjoy it! Because the whole day will just go so fast!