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Feel confused- possible trigger

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Babydontcry · 27/12/2018 15:45

I've name changed for obvious reasons. I'm feeling confused. I will admit for the last two months I've not wanted sex, mixture of tired, stressed a cold and d&v. The lack of sex has caused some problems with dp who has a high sex drive but I explained and thought he understood. This morning I woke up more thaN once to him trying to have sex. I told him no I was stilll waking up and could hear the kids (they can't get in are room because of a stair gate). He wouldn't stop touching me and in the end I laid there Just wanting it to be over. What I don't understand is he went down on me and I orgasmed, surely if I didn't want it it wouldn't of happened. He's acting like everything is fine but i feel awful

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Flower777 · 27/12/2018 16:00

Hey OP. I’m sorry this happened to you. The body will still respond even if it’s non consensual. It can be very confusing for people.

There is likely to be a Rape Crisis Centre near you if you want to talk it over with someone xx

hidinginthenightgarden · 27/12/2018 16:00

Sometimes your body reacts without our minds agreement. You said no and he carried on. He crossed a boundary here and you need to make him see how wrong he was before he decides it is okay to do it again.

Graphista · 27/12/2018 16:45

I'm so sorry.

That you had an orgasm doesn't mean you consented or even enjoyed it - it's merely a physiological reaction to physical stimulation.

Many sexual assault & rape victims experience this.

Are you safe now? Can you leave/get him to leave?

Babydontcry · 28/12/2018 06:33

I couldn't say rape to him, but did in a roundabout way tell him what he did, he said he was sorry. I can't leave everyone thinks he is perfect

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