How would you get over the fact if not wanting to live where you are bit hsve no choice?

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I hate where I live. No friends, no family, no job opportunities. I feel like it's my prison and that I'm trapped but can't move. (DP and I have children from previous relationships so we're stuck here for the next 10-12 years). Thinking of that just makes me feel worse. My DM just tells me that I should me happy because a good man loves me. DP thinks that I'll magically find a job and that once we fall pregnant and have a baby my priorities will change and feel happy.

@Snuggy I see what you mean, but after having a loss we realised how much we wanted to have a child together.

How did you end up living in this area in the first place? Given the sums involved, it doesn't sound like London so you must have moved there before you were tied to living there due to the shared care arrangement. What attracted you to the area then? What jobs did you do between graduating with your masters and now?
You say that shift patten jobs won't work because of your shared care arrangements. Can you flex those arrangements? What are your exH'a working hours? Can you come up with an arrangement which works around both?
How do you see another child fitting in financially? With your job hunting? With your childcare arrangements? Would it mean it could be harder to leave your DP and/or the area, Would it impact on your benefits? I am confused by the fact you say you receive none yet it is clear that your DC receive child benefit and elsewhere you refer to child tax credits so you are getting some support.

I moved to a place i dont like too far from my mum to be with exDH. Now we're split and the complete lack of employment, being miles from any facilities, ridiculous property prices and requirement to stay close for the sake of DD have really hit home and i cant move away for a longtime yet. Tbh i dont cope very well with it.

@online that sounds souch like me , I feel you!
@thenwill my now exH got a job offer that proved a better path back then. I told him it was career suicide for me and that I wasn't happy with it at all. Everybody on his side turned against me as he was the "main breadwinner". The day I left London I left in tears. Over the years he wouldn't let me change jobs as he didn't want to end up staking shelves and I had a good salary. The irony is that he's now being promoted while I'll be staking shelves. He couldn't work with the unpredictability of shift patterns, I rembei at some.loint I had to see my DD in a carpark because that was the best I could get. I am getting some support but that's obviously not enough.

I'm sorry OP, I didn't want to be judgy it just sounds like with a complicated family situation, money worries and not a lot of space for the kids involved already that an additional baby would make things much more difficult.

I know snuggy . DP seems to think life will be ok. Apart from him and my DD (and his DC to some extent) my life is pretty miserable. A baby would be a ray of hope so to speak.