Worried sick- how will we cope

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I shouldn't have checked today of all bloody days but I've just done a pregnancy test which came back positive. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck I am grateful but I am utterly worried sick. I don't know what has gone wrong. I've been on the pill since last child. 18m ago.

We are utterly skint. I cannot afford this child. And I cannot terminate. Please don't tell me to do that. I respect whatever a woman chooses but personally it would affect my mental health. We won't be getting any help from the government as tax credits are only for 2kids. Thanks Tories for that. I'm fucked.

I already do every single fucking money saving tip under the sun. I budget. I buy second everything. I shop in the cheapest places. We are just about getting by ok with the minimum.

Please tell me I'll be ok. Dh is still in bed and clueless. I don't want to tell him today as he will be worrying ss much as I and I don't want this to shadow Xmas day. I don't even want to think about Xmas next year. My house is too small. I can't afford to move. We'll need a bigger car. I can't afford it. I want to cry.

vengefuldog loving your great nans advice!

Yes! I loved that quote too!

Op.. breathe in, breathe out. Due to my work I have a lot to do with all kinds of family situations and problems if you will. It may seem impossible now but like many have mentioned, people have made things work for far less opportunities and things before. Do not feel any pressure to think about tories or anyone. What a xmas surprise! have some - it will be ok.

I had 3 and it did need a certain amount of financial wizardry and tetris skills to organise the house but honestly, it was fine. They were all loved and happy and the material stuff didn't really matter - so what if they don't have the expensive Nike trainers or whatever. It all worked out in the end and I'm sure it will for you too because you are obviously so excited about this new baby and your husband sounds great too.
Congratulations OP.

Congratulations! What a lovely thing to discover today. You will cope more than you know!

Said with respect but I'm glad you're now seeing this as a positive and counting your lucky stars. After all I bet there are millions of women who would give anything to get such news.
Congratulations

Been there OP. Mum of 2. Utterly skint. A trainee so on a crap income. DP self employed. Just completed mat leave after DS1. Renting our house and owners of a flat in negative equity that we needed tenants to fill so that we could afford to rent our house. On top of that, angelic DS had turned into the naughtiest toddler in the world. Then.... we found out it was twins!!

3 years later I’m fully qualified, a mother of 4 and a home owner! It felt like the most terrifying thing that could ever happen emotionally and financially but somehow we managed it.

Merry Christmas and good luck. You will be fine. You have a loving supportive partner and a roof over your head. You’re starting from a position of strength even though it doesn't feel like it right now.

You can’t even have a wee glass of prosecco!