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If you are waking up this morning and your children are with their other parent

46 replies

Rowenaravenclawsdiadem · 25/12/2018 07:43

It sucks doesn’t it?

I won’t get to see mine until this afternoon. It’s been 9 years of sharing Christmases and it is still shitty.

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blueeyedpie · 25/12/2018 07:45

It really does.
My ex moved too far away to share the day so my kids are with him until 27th. I don't consider it a 'real' Christmas on the years they're at his house.

HowlsMovingBungalow · 25/12/2018 07:46

Yup, it is.

I don't think you ever get over it. Tainted my experience of Christmas. My dc are adult now but still.
Flowers

KlutzyDraconequus · 25/12/2018 07:46

On the plus side, I'm still in bed and can stay here .
On the cons side, I miss my little one and I can only hope she's having fun.

IHaveBrilloHair · 25/12/2018 07:48

Mine is with her boyfriend and his family.
She decided to tell me yesterday so I'm on my own.
I'm fine with being on my own, Im overwhelmingly hurt by her and its shit.
I will be going for a drive later with loud music to try and cheer me up, then coming home and getting drunk.

Punto1 · 25/12/2018 07:49

DD in a different country. I'm alone for the day. I don't have a tree. I don't have any decorations. I'm feeling ill. I'll have no Christmas dinner. Just some frozen everyday stuff. I'm skint. The build up to today was worse. Now that it's here, it's just another Tuesday with the shops shut, with pain to take my mind off things. I Like reading about the other excited families with their kids getting up now to the magic of Santa. Mine is a teenager now, so still in bed. Nobody awake yet. She could sleep for the country. I actually can't wait for it to be over. Must remind my mother to send me a video of the present opening.

greyspottedgoose · 25/12/2018 07:50

That's shit @IHaveBrilloHair hope you have lots of treats in for yourself

Neverexpected2 · 25/12/2018 07:53

It's my first year not waking with them here Xmas morning Sad. They will be back with me this afternoon though

LRL2017 · 25/12/2018 07:54

Yes. My first Christmas doing this and I'm really struggling. She is only 15 months so many years ahead of this :(

StealthPolarBear · 25/12/2018 07:55

Brillo if she's a teen or early twenties they can be so selfish. I was. It was because my parents were so fantastic I knew I could get away with it. On her behalf I'm sorry xc

Wacadu · 25/12/2018 07:55

I'll see mine about 1pm. At least I get a longer lie but it's just not quite Christmas until they're here.

TeaAndNoSympathy · 25/12/2018 07:55

Yep. It’s a bit shit. Won’t see mine until tomorrow morning.

Will phone them soon. Have treated myself to a festive hot chocolate and and going for lunch with family later so I won’t be alone and I will make an effort. But it’s still all a bit hollow without them.

Looking forward to tomorrow when i’ll have my Christmas Day with them.

Merry Christmas to everyone in the same boat.

HRTpatch · 25/12/2018 08:04

Both mine are 300 miles away with dad. For the first time. They are early twenties though . But the first time I won't see them.open their presents. And I do good gifts Smile
Thoughts to you all ladies x

wendz86 · 25/12/2018 08:05

Yes but I get to see mine in 2 hours . I’m at my sisters and no one is up apart from me . Not even my 2 year old niece . I want some excitement !

IdontknowwhyIcallhimGerald · 25/12/2018 08:07

I've woken up without mine too for the first time and won't see them till tomorrow. I've also upset my boyfriend by being too sad to stay with him last night. I just couldn't bear to be around his lovely happy family. I'm volunteering today so it will be okay, but it's very hard. Big hugs to us all.

fullforce · 25/12/2018 08:08

My DD is at my mum’s for the 2nd Xmas in a row as my heating hasn’t worked in over a year. Private rent, they’ve been notified over the phone and by letter multiple times. I can’t contract work myself otherwise they’d have grounds to evict me, not many will do it either knowing it’s rented. It’s vile and am commencing court proceedings after Xmas. DD is happy and non the wiser though! I wish I could wake up to her every morning, stupid LLs and estate agentsSad DD’s father has never bothered with Xmas thank goodness, can’t imagine how it must feel for you all!

backaftera2yearbreak · 25/12/2018 08:11

Me. My partners at work. But I’m really quite sad this year. I miss my boy.

backaftera2yearbreak · 25/12/2018 08:12

To be clear my sons at his dads

Livingthedream12345 · 25/12/2018 08:13

Merry Christmas everyone.
My DD is away with abusive XH till 27th.
I'm going to explore a new beach with my dogs today. I'm being truly selfish today, not had a day to myself without work since July. Going to put my feet up!

Dhalandchips · 25/12/2018 08:15

Me too. It's their first Xmas at their dad's. I'm still in bed but missing them hugely. I get them back at 1pm, then Xmas will properly start 😀 merry Xmas everyone

RolandDeschainsGilly · 25/12/2018 08:15

My middle two are at their Dads till this afternoon but my teenager and toddler are here Grin Teen is still asleep despite toddlers Best Efforts to wake him up.

Toddler is with me every year as ExH not around and the teen decided last minute to be here.

DCITennison · 25/12/2018 08:20

My dc will be here until mid morning then away until lateish on the 27th. Still in bed though and I’m itching to wake them up!
It’ll be a strange day for me today but we had a lovely day yesterday and I’ll get to have the presents opening part this morning.
Could be a lot worse and I plan on a lazy, self-indulgent day.

KlutzyDraconequus · 25/12/2018 08:21

I've also upset my boyfriend by being too sad to stay with him last night.

What a tosser.. he should have been understanding and supportive.

Big hugs to you.

Hell, big hugs to everyone missing someone today. Cake Wine for all

Spanglyprincess1 · 25/12/2018 08:33

We have ours ds but dp is missing his other kids today, plus side is two Christmas days as we will do it again boxing day. Exhausting though!

Soontobe60 · 25/12/2018 08:34

I did alternate christmases with DD from her being 6. The first year I just stayed in bed all day with new partner, pretending I didn't care. We worked family christmases round those arrangements after that as my sister was the same. So our Christmas days was either on th actual day or on Boxing day.

Justwaitingforaline · 25/12/2018 08:37

Sending love to you all. This was me last year and will be me next year as we alternate. Thankfully, we’ve got to a pint in our relationship where DD’s dad will be popping over for an hour later to see her - something I didn’t ever think would happen.

I hope you all still have a wonderful Christmas and second Christmas when your little people are back with you x