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Threads you didn't start - a low-stress, no drama discussion

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JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 23/12/2018 22:42

I loved the last one of these and thought some of us could do with another.

So, what are some threads you didn't start this week?

I had a woman ask me if my twins were IVF. I could've got all offended and asked if she meant to be so rude but instead I just said no, spontaneous, and then she told me a lovely story about her six failed rounds of ivf and how she finally got her miracle baby for Christmas last year.

I saw a man and woman park in a PnC space yesterday. It was a bit annoying but I found a space that was fine to get the babies out with, so I didn't say anything.

Any other mini dramas avoided this week? Xmas Smile

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BadlyAgedMemes · 23/12/2018 22:47

I've had some in-law frustration today, which has caused us some stress, but I can't be arsed to go into it, or to worry about it.

Otherwise I'm quite drama free. Low key Christmas. DH isn't very well, but thankfully seems a bit better now than a few weeks ago.

treaclesoda · 23/12/2018 22:55

I'm the youngest, by some distance, of a large family. So I had nieces and nephews when I was still a child myself. Every year I bought them all a little Christmas present. By the time I had children myself, my older siblings had decided that everyone was too old to exchange Christmas presents with the result that my children have never had a Christmas present, whereas my nieces and nephews got a present every year.

Every Christmas I think 'that's a bit unfair' and then I let it go, because its really not worth falling out about.

itsboiledeggsagain · 23/12/2018 22:56

One of my 3 small children just threw up. Happy Christmas

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JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 23/12/2018 22:58

Oh boiledeggs I feel your pain! DD2 has thrown up into her dinner tonight and then wanted to keep eating it

She'll probably be fine tomorrow.

Treacle very wise!

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SoleBizzz · 23/12/2018 23:01

I went to Tesco and the yogurt was off. I could have complained to the Manager or compared Tesco to the perfect Waitrose.

Safeandwarm · 23/12/2018 23:06

I didn’t fancy going to a relative’s pre-Christmas party this weekend, they kind of railroaded me into it. Instead of starting a thread about how controlling they are. Making up a flimsy excuse, or worse sending passive aggressive texts, I just sucked it up and went. I actually had a really nice time.

HoHoFuck · 23/12/2018 23:06

This isn't really no drama, but I didn't post because I've already received loads of support from my mental health team as well as my family:

I used to be really friends with a girl during university. Seeking better study opportunities, I transferred to a better one, in another city. During this, friend had a mental breakdown. Having just gotten better from mental health myself, I felt really guilty by not helping, but being there for her was an easy trigger for my anxiety and depression, so I stepped back.
While I made new friends and moved on with my life, friend dropped out of university and is now convinced her "destiny" is at the same university I am now. She has decided her mental illness is the result of both her parents divorcing when she was little and the university that did not support her.
What bothers me the most, however, is how she's developed a cruel streak. She is outright lying to her parents to get more money to spend, laughs at other's misery, etc. She's also prone to crying outbursts.

So I've stepped back. She asked me to stay in my place next month, and I lied and said I was travelling. I am also hoping she doesn't get accepted at my university, because I KNOW she and her parents will expect me to take care of friend. Essentially, I moved on from the friendship and she hasn't.

Like I said, I've had lots of support from my psychiatrist and psychologist to step away from this friendship. I thought about posting about this in either AIBU or Relationships, but ultimately, whatever mumsnetters say, I'm happy with my decision and I don't want to be that poster that disagrees with all the others.

Stardustinmyeyes · 23/12/2018 23:07

My DH collected the turkey that I had ordered online and it was the wrong one so I went back to the supermarket and not only did the manager find the turkey that I had ordered he told me to keep the other one. I have emailed their head office to praise the customer service I received

RedPandaFluff · 23/12/2018 23:11

@JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff I'm curious to know why it's rude to ask if twins were IVF babies? I've been through three (unsuccessful) cycles of IVF and if I'd been lucky enough to conceive twins I don't think I'd have been shocked or annoyed if someone asked me that.

Don't mean to derail the thread - just curious in a low-key, undramatic way 😄

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JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 23/12/2018 23:23

RedPanda not at all! I don't partic care but it is a staple "thing" on MN. You come across it on the multiples board but also on "things never to say to a new mum or pregnant woman" type threads. I guess it is because it is quite intimate and sorta asking about their sex life? I guess? Tbh for me it's up there with asking if they are identical (no, a boy and a girl!) I just smile inwardly and let it go as it's just small talk.

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Jeffjefftyjeff · 23/12/2018 23:37

A woman in Sainsbury’s got annoyed with my dad for shouting at her son to get out of the way. She didn’t realise I was daughter so rolled her eyes at me and said (of her boy) ‘he’s only a child’. My dad is deaf so always shouts and just wanted to make sure the boy had seen him. The woman was probably stressed at Christmas shopping with two small children. I smiled sympathetically and carried on out of the shop.

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JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 24/12/2018 00:05

Good for you Jeff. Xmas Smile

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abbsisspartacus · 24/12/2018 00:13

I have a friend she hates my partner because my partner got the hump over her publicly gushing over a girl who gave her a lift home from hospital when I wore myself out shuttling back and forth taking stuff up there visiting working full time long commute etc etc with no mention of a thankyou, well she dropped me like a hot rock after she was "better" now she is knocked up her boyfriend doesnt help her chronic illness is flaring and she wants me to do the school run and ferry her around to school i could have asked the advice of mumsnet but I decided what to do all by myself Wink

InSightMars · 24/12/2018 00:14

I didn’t call the cops because someone cut me off in the mall parking lot and beat me to the last empty space and parked so the poor bastard next to her will have to get in the passenger side. I didn’t have a big argument with her or leave a pa note on her windshield saying “fucking space-stealing bitch and learn to fucking park!” either.
I failed mn 101 and meekly drove to the valet and had them park me. Two days before Christmas? Best $10 I’ve spent this shopping season!

user1489792710 · 24/12/2018 00:34

I was excluded from a Christmas party yesterday by a group of 'friends'. Sobbed into my tea this morning after seeing photos in social media. My toddler got very upset at seeing me cry and offered me two of her gingerbread house sweeties and a very snotty kiss. DH made me fresh cup of tea. Looked at my wonderful family and decided can't give a f** about a group of women I hardly know!

Life is too short for drama.

InSightMars · 24/12/2018 00:44

user I am so glad you didn’t post that thread! It would have gone on for fucking ever, everyone making pa suggestions for you to post and demanding updates. Your family sounds bloody lovely and there’s nothing better for curing the weepies than toddler-snotty sweeties.

user1489792710 · 24/12/2018 00:56

Indeed insightmars. Toddler wiped snot with aforementioned sweet in hand before offering it to me. Eat mama very delicious she said. Cured me flat.

Having my own NYE party and inviting people I want to it. So there!

DownUdderer · 24/12/2018 02:23

Our boiler has packed up, can I add that we live in Australia so it’s not really a big deal. I had a luke warm shower yesterday and I might have a cold one today, maybe I won’t bother. We think lightening struck it and maybe it’s shorted out, who knows. Hopefully an electrician will be able to look at it today maybe later in the week.

KeepServingTheFestiveSnogs · 24/12/2018 02:33

HoHoFuck, you are amazing! You should feel very proud of yourself!

abbsisspartacus do you not know you can't make ANY decision or take ANY action without posting on here first to ask advice???? (but well done you!)

Mine's a bit different... My favourite jeans (which I wear ALL THE TIME) got too big. Belt didn't help. Fell down as I was walking (through town)
Very pleased, but reminded myself I'll probably put it all back on over the holidays.

sdaisy26 · 24/12/2018 05:46

I was ready to kill dh last night when he randomly decided to sprinkle icing sugar over the chocolate logs I’d spent all afternoon making, that do need icing sugar on but only just before serving. Now it will sort of melt into the chocolate icing and look rubbish.

I was absolutely furious that he’d come and effectively manspread all over my hard work.

Then I remembered I loved him and this probably wasn’t the thing to fall out over.

This time.

Lovestonap · 24/12/2018 07:04

I had some poor customer service at a shop yesterday. Managed to survive without posting asking if it is too much to expect a smile when doing my Christmas shopping. Just checked again, and yep, still alive here. I hope the shop assistants day got better for them Smile

Christmasgone2018 · 24/12/2018 07:05

I’d invited my parents to share Christmas lunch with me and my DD. DM hummed and haad for a while and then said she’d think about it but was waiting to see if she got an invite from another sibling. A couple of weeks ago I reminded her how much we’d like them to join us and she said oh Your sibling invited us to her new big house so we’re going there. There will be a crowd and another sibling will be going and oh it’ll be sooooo much fun.
Instead of posting on MN I had a little cry and then realised I’ll never be the favoured child, it’s just the way it is. I’m thankful for my son tiny family in my own tiny house

Christmasgone2018 · 24/12/2018 07:06

Own not son

ScreamingBadSanta · 24/12/2018 07:12

We have an old integrated fridge that we don't use. It sits empty and switched off, with the potential to act as overflow storage.

I was mentioning this to my mum and opened the fridge to demonstrate its potential usefulness. I was greeted by the sight of a weeks' old half-eaten jacket potato, covered in great lumps of bright green mould.

DH was the culprit (only the two of us, and I never leave a jacket potato half-eaten). He occasionally shoves things in there, though I have told him again and again not to, because they get forgotten about.

I nearly started a thread to ask if I should LTB ... but I just cleaned it up instead Xmas Grin.

mnahmnah · 24/12/2018 07:50

My DM recently reconnected with her first love from her teenage years. They’re both in their 70s. My DF died a few years ago and they were very much in love to the end, my DM has been grieving and lonely ever since. Me and DB were happy and excited for her. But in less than two weeks since they got back in touch, they’ve seen each other a lot, him sleeping over as he lives 2 hours away from her. All seems to be moving very fast. Then last night she said they’re spending Christmas together. Fine, they’re both alone, sounds nice. But she asked if me and DC want to spend Boxing Day with him. We arrive there to stay a few days, having a second Christmas Day with her. I said no. Felt all too soon and weird. DC are only small and it would make their special day with grandma weird. It’s all giving me the ick a bit. He’s leaving just before we get there now which will also feel weird. Was going to post on here but FaceTimed my DB in Australia instead and he said he’d feel exactly the same!