To those with 2+ teenagers

[oslab]

What's the relationships like between your teenagers? Do they get on, socialise with each other? Would you say they are close and talk or not talk at all?

I've always wanted my children to grow up with a good closeness between them but I've heard so many people talk about how their teenagers never really even talk so looking for actual experiences with this!

Mine get on for the most part (both boys) though both are fairly placid and have enough in common to still do things together.

The younger is about to move up to the same school as the eldest next September and they have no intention of telling anyone they are related mind!

Mine are 17 and nearly 16 and they get on quite well now, though they are not that close.

There was a period when it was more difficult but now my oldest has left home they seem to appreciate each other more!

Yes, since they didn't have to live with each other full time, ie, when eldest went t to university, he and dc2 started getting on really well.
When dc2 went to university, they started getting on much better with dc3 too.
As kids, they fought.
As younger teens they mainly ignored one another or sometimes complained about each other to me.
Once they were independent (in truth, probably before they left home, but once they were driving) they got on much better and still do now.

Mine are 18 and 16 and I've loved it this holiday when we sit at the table and all talk and take the piss and just have a great time. The boys are chalk and cheese but really get on well, it's fantastic. I don't actually think I've ever heard them have a cross word with each other (since they got big anyway). Sadly for their 11 year old brother this means he is desperate to be part of it and ends up annoying the 16 one year old big time mimicking their language and behaviour in an attempt to fit in. You can't have everything!

Mine are 20, 18 and 15. They get on well (they're all at home), the oldest 2 (both boys) like to bitch at each other but it's generally good natured and just the downside of sharing a room and DS2 being a bit of a troll.

I used to worry about it when they were smaller - Mumsnet was always full of horror stories about teens but the fact is you don't tend to post about the boring day-to-day stuff where people get on, you post when you need help and things are spiralling out of control.

On the whole my three ( four including dss ) get on really well, although there are the occasional fallouts, these never last long. The younger two only have thirteen months age gap and are close but argue more often.

The relationship improved when they all went to the same school, when the youngest was still in primary they definitely argued more. No idea why.

Mine are just turned 16 and 13.5, both boys. They do get on for the most part, both play in football teams, have their own jokes and are great going off together on holiday. I thought I always wanted a DD but time has shown that having two children of the same gender has been absolutely the best thing.

16 and 18 year old. Love it.
They have their moments but on the whole are great friends. Socialise together too.

Love the banter between them and in and around home.

I hadn't planned to have them close in age. My youngest was a surprise.
It was hard when they were under 5 but I wouldn't change it at all

I have ds(14) and dd(15) and they fight like cat and dog one minute then next minute they’re going out to the cinema/costa together. I can’t keep up!

I also have 2 dsd (13 and 14) and they’re similar.

When they’re all together there’s always one not talking to the other, it drives us mad 😠

Ds2 is 18 months and by far the easiest of all the children 🤣

I should add mine are two lads too

Mine are 16 and 14, they were inseparable as children, depise each other now and would happily ship each other of to a foster home if they could. I try and separate them as much as possible to keep the peace.

My 3 get on well but aren't close

Very different personalities and interests!

DS18 and DS17. They do not communicate with each other at all. They are chalk and cheese. Never had an argument as they don't talk to each other. Sad really but it is what it is.

My DD17 and DS21 haven’t got on for years, my son is at uni they don’t keep in touch with each other at all when he is away. My oldest son 25 has a brilliant relationship with his little sister as there are 8 years between them they don’t have anything to argue about really.

Mine are 22, 18 and 17 and they get on really well now. If they are all home (away at university) they usually take the dog for a walk together in the evenings. Also love to watch The Office together.

One thing I learned was when they were mid teens and started really chatting at the dinner table, at the end of the meal dh and I would often just drift off and leave them at it - we didn't need to be part of every conversation - they opened up much more with each other without us.

One of the best moments of being a parent was recently when dd went to university. She was really really nervous. Her brother and sister came down with her to move her in (ds got up at 6 am after a week of work and getting up mad early to do so) and they both talked to her and calmed her down.

They also fight .... mostly the girls ... we call ds Imperturbability Pallisers