Anyone else married to a Christmas Grinch

[beanaseireann]

Is anyone else married to a Christmas Grinch?
My dh gets so cranky coming up to and during Christmas. I call him Scrooge. Well I did once to his face.
Because of family illness our Christmas is not as we would wish but I just get on with it. He whinges and despairs at the amount of money spent and Christmas dinner will not be up to his impossibly high standard- think 5 star hotel as opposed to what he'll get - Fawlty Towers madness.
I wish I could ship him off to the Sandy Lane in Barbados while I just get on with it.
He'll be fine in January till the credit card bill comes in.
Aghhhhhh

Yes my oh always spends december in a foul mood, I would rather he went on holiday for the whole month than put up with his moods. Today he screamed and shouted that at our 7 year old that his Christmas is cancelled because he doesn’t do as he’s told. I spend the whole month thinking of things for them to do and I feel like he drags all of us down.

Hope your oh has had a change of mood recently

So just the two of us Somewhereovertherainbow13 ?

I am divorced from such a grumpy man. He was little an angry little child in between sulking he would erupt in anger when guests weren't present. We have fun now he's not around.

I find playing this cheers me right up if someone is being a Christmas Grinch.

(Warning contains swears- not suitable for small ears!)

m.youtube.com/watch?v=T4B5wJ5k6Ik

I must admit as an adult I’m totally bemused by it all.
We take ourselves off for a sunshine holiday the first week in December and come back in time for Christmas.

Partially for a vit d top up but also to get away with the incessant ‘ Christmas activities ‘

I find it so over the top...as it would appear so do a lot of people.
I don’t find it magical. I find it commercial.
I don’t like the idea of spinning children tissues of lies about a fat man in a red suit bringing obscene amounts of presents for so many children that already have so much / too much stuff.

I love the family day...don’t get me wrong. Any time spent with my family is like winning the lottery of life.
We had a fabulous day yesterday and can’t thank my dd and sil enough for hosting Christmas for 12 of us.

I think if it was scaled back to take a lot of pressure off families it would be a lot more enjoyable for so many people.

My dad is like this. He spent yesterday monopolising the TV and watching only programs about bacteria and crop circles.

i loathe Christmas and make sure I spend it on my own. My family know they'll see me all year.

Dowser, I agree. I was thinking about everything that needed to be planned for to make one day happen is crazy! And a lot of the pressure we put on ourselves.

it depends what you mean by Christmas grinch maybe he just doesn't want from Christmas what you want and well after Christmas you need to talk about it before next year

My DH is not keen but I always knew this, it hates the commercialisation and getting folks presents they don't want in exchange for stuff you really don't want either, he is not sulky but things many things are hype, we have a tree and lights, lovely food and buy each other what we want from a list, DD gets a reasonable amount of presents

he doesn't want to go to Christmas markets, watch lights switch on in town or traipse round shops, if I and DD want to do this it is fine but he is not coming, he will come to church for carols etc
but too many people get stressed out get themselves in debt for piles of plastic tat that needs recycling or buying people presents they can't afford
as dowser said if it was scaled back most would end up happier

A lot of people complaining about DP's being grinches have decided without asking DP that they are going to do this this and that plus another 50 things for Christmas and then moaning as DP doesn't help or grumbles about it when in fact if they had asked DP in the first place he may have said I don't want to do all that it's too much time, effort, work ( delete as applicable ) I just want an easy time and not to overspend in fact it might be about money we simply don't have £££ to spend so keep it simple but OH thinks a good time can't be had without £££ bound to lead to battles

I'm with you Dowser. I would like Christmas to be a bit less full on. Went to see next doors children testerday and they were swamped with presents.It was obscene. It's so commercialised. I think it makes us a bit cynical to be honest.
My husband hates Christmas but on the day itself he couldn't be nicer. I can't work him out.

2nd year running and I haven't bought Xmas presents for anyone and it's very liberating. OH is also not into consumerism and hates how Christmas is commercialised. We have everything we need so don't need to get each other anything either just because society tells us to. In the past Christmas was stressful & was starting to give me anxiety and I didn't look forward to it as much as I do now.

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This year we gathered with family (16 of us) had plenty of food, played lots of games, danced the night away and reminisced . It was wonderful !
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Now driving to his side of the family for their Christmas gathering, and we will do it all over again (food, games, laughter etc).