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Festive loneliness

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CurlsLDN · 22/12/2018 11:30

Hello,just posting for some virtual hugs!

I separated from DH 1.5 years ago, and completed divorce a couple of months ago.

The split was sudden and traumatic, but I got through the first year by writing millions of lists and focussing on achieving some financial stability (exh stole all our money), getting DS and I into a lovely safe new home and holding down my (very responsible) job.

Now that that panic is all done, I'm in a better place and the divorce is complete I feel quite flat and lonely. Christmas is really bringing it home.

I don't want my exh back - wouldn't touch him with a bargepole! But I miss sharing the festive excitement with another adult, or little things like someone else looking after ds while I go to Poundland for stocking fillers.

My family are nearby and very supportive, but If I try to tell my mum how I'm feeling she focusses so hard on 'but you're so much better off without him! You're doing so brilliantly!' I don't think she hears what I'm saying.
I struggle to talk to friends about it as the split was 1.5 years ago, so ages in their eyes!

Anyone else feeling like this? It will get better won't it?

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Ifailed · 22/12/2018 11:39

You say you got through the first year by writing lists - could you not spend some time over xmas with your DS and write down what you'd both like to do next year? I know it can be a hard time as it brings back memories (good and bad), but maybe looking forward rather than back will help?

CurlsLDN · 22/12/2018 11:44

I think you're right Ifailed, involving Ds would be lovely

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