Am I being unreasonable

[monkeyboymumma]

So I have one child and all my three brothers and sisters have two each. We have always set a £20 limit on niece and nephew present (even though I'm spending £40 on each family 2X£20, which I've always been fine with as it is my choice to only have one child) however I found out today that one sibling only spends £15 on my only child when I have already spent £20 on each of his children (therefore spending £40 total). Should I be so annoyed that this was not discussed before I went out and spent the £40 that my son was only getting a £15 present?! Am I being unreasonable?

You sound a bit petty and grabby- ever heard of the season of giving

Yes. If He were spending 99p I'd see your point but the difference between a £15 and £20 gift is really not that much.

In future give what you can afford to give, not what someone else can afford to give.

You sound ridiculous.

Surely it's better to have a present they want that may cost less than £20, rather than spending £20 for the hell of it.

A £20 limit means to spend up to £20, not that you have to spend £20. Limits are set to avoid over spending, not to prescribe the amount that must be spent.

Jeez, petty much? It's a £20 limit.

Think you need to down a bottle of Baileys and watch Elf or do something to get you in the Christmas spirit.

Jesus.....we have an upper limit. Doesn't mean you have the reach it though.

Petty! Presents should be given because of the love between the giver and givee. Your sibling might not be able to afford more. Now if you found out they spent £20 each on your joint nephews/nieces and then only !15 on yours I might feel a bit put out but I wouldn't say anything.

It's a limit, not an absolute! YABU!

How petty.

YABU

You are talking about £5. YABU

Do you really begrudge the extra £5 each that you have spent on your niece/nephew? Surely you just bought them something that each of them would like?
YABU

So you think that because you spent £40 on his two children that your child should get a £40 present? YABU.

I have one child. My dsis has a lot more kids. All the family budget about £10 per person. To us it's per person not per family.

My DSis has 5 DCs and I have 2 so obviously it costs me a lot more but that’s life.

I don’t have a set amount for each just try to keep it under £20;each, I suspect she does the same though we’ve never discussed it.

I think you’re overreacting a bit.

How petty to resent a fiver - if they bought something your child would like who cares? YABU

I'd rather my child received one £15 present than one £15 present and £5 of stuff that just balanced out the money. I think you are overthinking things.

So petty.
I’ve spent varying amounts on my nieces and nephew because I’ve got thoughtful presents for them. One niece I’ve spent much more on this year because I saw something she’d reallt love. It’s not reflective of what I feel about them but what suits them. You don’t give to receive, you give because it’s fun and you love that person.