Help, I've screwed up, don't know what to do

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I'm meant to be getting married on Sat, it's all gone horribly wrong, I don't know what to do for the best

you don't HAVE to walk down the aisle with everyone looking. Change it up, on guest arrival already be at the front with DP, allow him to be the first to see you in your dress - in private alone, arrive together. Be a team about it and have him beside you

The issue is, the friend won't have thought at all about how stressful the wedding is for you. People don't, especially those who aren't married - they don't realise the amount of prep and organistion that you've put in. he is just thinking '2 of us were invited, there's still 2 of us coming'

I would be the same. The whole reason I’m never getting married is because the thought of being the centre of attention like that is just no. However you want to be married.

He wants his friend there. His friend is a dick and was always going to pull a dick move and has pulled a dick move. At least he’s pulled his dick move early in the week and you know what it is rather than doing it on the day. Talk to your soon to be husband. Say your sorry he feels your focusing on the wrong things and that all you want to be is married to him.

Tell him all you want is to see his face on your wedding day so what you want is for him to wait outside the room and you will walk down the aisle together. Everyone else can be seated. And you can focus just on your husband besides you.

Then ask one of your friends to casually let it slip to his friends new piece that he’s got a horrendous case of herpes and the worst case of gonorrhoea that’s ever been seen- so and it’s made it into medical journals. And deny all knowledge 😂

I agree you should go to dr explain its the anxiety of being centre of attention/on display not cold feet and they should hopefully be able to prescribe something to get you through.

If they don't then maybe try Bach rescue remedy (helped me with exam nerves) or perhaps aromatherapy/breathing exercises.

Thinking about you today. Hope everything worked itself out.

It hasn't gone wrong, it's your anxiety that's causing doubts. You could see your GP.

I had similar anxieties abut being centre of attention etc so I opted for the registry office with parents/siblings only and DH and I walked in together. No fuss, no big party afterwards just a quiet meal in a pub nearby.

There is no set way to do things so just do what makes you comfortable.

Good luck.

Good luck! 💐

I did it . Twatty friend was a massive Twat, the extra person he brought was dressed more for a big night out than a wedding, but I was perfectly polite (well, I adopted the motto grin and bear it!) and we had the most perfect day

Congratulations, glad you’re ok, enjoy your life together.

Awww congratulations - and well done!

Congratulations

Hooray!

So he has no consideration for your feelings or emotional state regarding walking in on your own, and no though to whether or not it's ok for friend to being a random date. I'd probably have said yes to the date- it's already booked and paid for, but there should have been a consultation. Do you have someone walking you done the Isle? Would you be more comfortable if DP Met you on the walk down? Do you normally have arguments where he shouts and tells you how you feel? I hope it's all juts a blip. I hope the day is beautiful. But please remember this. Never how he treated you. Don't allow it to become a regular thing

Congratulations!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉 Please don't listen to the scaremongers going on about not letting him control you. It's one of the most stressful occasions of your life and things get blown out of proportion. I had a huge row with my DH the night before our wedding over something his parents had done and he agreed to without asking me. I wasn't even sure if he would turn up on the to be honest! He did turn up and we have been married for 34 years and I can't even remember exactly what it was his parents had done to annoy me so much!

You overreacted due to your stress and he overreacted in return. Put it behind you and congratulations.

Yeah OP.