Will anyone else get no Christmas presents?

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I don’t really mind but when I opened my secret Santa at work I realised I wouldn’t be getting anything else!

Me! We don't do presents for adults in our family. We just buy for the children. It doesn't bother me really. I think Christmas is for the kids.

Me and my youngest are exchanging presents, but no other Family members do Adult gifts.

I've had nothing on my Birthday, as such, I asked for Theatre Vouchers and Mother's Day/Easter.

It doesn't bother me because I'm happy to treat myself.

I used to hate having to do a gift exchange with Boyfriends/Partners. Me and my DH (deceased) used to allocate a spending amount to each other out of our joint account.

My youngest is 21. I do it more for her sake.

My husband and I exchange something very small - no more than £15. I'm not really expecting anything from anyone else. I don't mind because my husband will give me a book, and so long as I have a book and chocolate on Christmas day I'm sorted.
I very much mind when I'm not remembered on my birthday though.

Buy yourself a gift! :)

I don't know what I am getting but I have asked for money to be donated to something and I hope that happens. I will probably be given some small things which I'll like.

Me, sort of. Eldest got me to help him get set up for online shopping so he could order his own family presents, but he spent all his cash on porn. Husband won't buy me anything so I've got myself something and wrapped it because otherwise the kids get upset.

I do all of the Christmas everything and just once I would like for someone to think of me. A box of Maltesers would be perfect, or a bar of chocolate or bloody anything really. I know it's my fault , but it sucks.

Yep. Don’t want or need anything, if anything we have too much already. DH did ask if I would like anything for Xmas. He didn’t like the responses of:

A) a wife
B) a skip
C) this book

DH and I don’t get each other anything, we spend it on the kids. I do usually get some money from my parents but if I don’t spend it quite quickly I usually end up frittering it away on every day bits and bobs!

@formerbabe we are exactly the same and think it's for children. We have no friends or family anyway.

akerman I'm with you. I have asked for the Only Connect quiz book and chocs. I also got a bottle of black cherry liqueur from M&S last year, which went down very well, although I'm not usually a drinker. But I do feel very lonely if people (family & friends) forget to send a birthday card, which they always do, because it's right after Christmas. But my family forget the dch's birthdays too, so that's not the excuse.

Husband and I exchange a few gifts and my DD gets me something but long standing agreement that no gifts from rest of adults in family. I buy for nieces. Never really understand why people say Christmas is just for the kids.

Me. My choice, decades ago to say that I'd no longer buy any adult a Christmas present and nor would I accept one.

I've found it very freeing and this is reinforced every year when I see how disappointed so many people are in this gift giving ritual and how much passive-aggressiveness is present in these exchanges.

Do your family not give presents or do you just not have anyone?

I'll get something from DH. He won't think to get me anything "from the children", my family don't exchange adult gifts, his family won't buy for me, my two best friends are both skint. I've bought myself a present, but I anticipate feeling a bit crap on the day when everyone else has sacks of stuff. DH will be a bit embarrassed I have so little to unwrap but he will have forgotten about it again by next year. And repeat. I don't really want the stuff, it just makes me feel unappreciated when I have spent weeks choosing, shopping, wrapping, posting. I have bought my Mum a fabulous gift because she probably felt the same when we were little. It sucks.

While the kids were still at home I'd buy and wrap some nice little things for myself, to open on the day: somehow seemed slightly less sad than watching them unwrap theirs empty handed!