To leave out one co worker?

[BeekyChitch]

I'm in a small team, working closely together where some rely on others work to help meet deadlines. One of our coworkers in particular, is lazy which affects others work (they have to pick it up), constantly off, rude and in general annoying. For example- will argue about the smallest things, try get involved in others personal business and tries to claim work as her own (boss is aware of this).

We organised Christmas dinner/drinks Thursday night straight after work which she found out about after overhearing talk of it so is now coming. Now that others know she is going they want to cancel...then rebook somewhere else without her. In my opinion it's all a bit childish but I really don't want her to ruin my evening (30 hours a week is enough) so WWYD?

Excluding someone one person and canceling and rebooking would be bullying.
Your behavior as a group would be worse than hers.

Her being lazy does not justify the rest of you being cunts.

People should have been more careful then.
Go out with her. And confront her attitude at work, which is the place for it.
Or assume it's a group of friends going out and tell her she's not in it.

Agree with previous posters you're nasty, nasty people

Top two have it nailed bang on.

If her behaviour at work is a problem, tell her that.

I don't think they're being cunts... you reap what you sow. If this person makes your working day miserable, why should you pay for the privilege of her ruining a social event (I'm assuming you're paying for yourself at your party).
We have not had a Christmas party at work this year, because one of our team makes our life unbearable most of the time. I'm not going to pay to socialise with the dick as well.

Deliberately excluding one colleague is bullying behaviour. Even my 5 year old knows that.

Sorry, she'll have to come if she wants to. Don't drink too much and have it out with her, either!

If work is paying for it in any way you really can’t leave her out.

Otherwise I’d rearrange too. If she spends her time making your lives miserable and attempting to take credit for your work I’m not surprised you don’t want to also socialise with her.

I work in a team. There have been members of it in the past who I have really struggled to get on with professionally. Same kind of things as you said. Laziness, gossiping etc. BUT, on the Christmas night out, everyone is invited. When your a team, you just suck it up. It's not like one person is going to get stuck with her all night. What you are all planning is just plain vile.

Her work abilities are for management to deal with but leaving one colleague out is truly horrible behaviour. Do you think that by being bitches towards her her work will improve? Says more about all of you than her to be honest.

Bullying

Agree, deliberately excluding her would be bullying. Not acceptable.

I don't think they're being cunts...

That's because your moral compass is as knackered as theirs is.

Imagine someone posting this the other way round

" my colleagues didn't invite me on the work night out. When I found out they then cancelled on me and I found out they went out on a different day instead "

It's bullying, it's really nasty and excluding her, even if you don't like her it's unkind.

I'd ask if you are all 11 year olds but the fact you are working means obviously not.

Nasty.

I wouldn't be going out with a group of adults who think this is acceptable behaviour. If you go with them, you are as bad as they are.
And I'd expect your disliked colleague to raise a grievance and/or be signed off work due to work-related stress.

She actually has been confronted about her behaviour by several bosses before as she moans about it to us. We say something along the lines "well you can see their point just do the work" and she goes on a rant about how she doesn't care what anyone thinks of her and she'll do what she wants. She worked in intensive care for a few months this year and said that she loved it because the patients were on life support and couldn't talk to her. This is the sick, warped, immature mentality that I cannot deal with and understand why others can't either.

I'm not going to go to ANY drinks/dinners as firstly, I don't want to be involved in any work drama and secondly, I don't want to listen to her shit in my personal time. I think those calling me nasty/childish should read the part where I said I think the whole thing is childish and I wasn't agreeing with either party. I asked WWYD not "what do you think I am for doing something I haven't done?"

I know a number of staff who joke about working in icu and not having to speak to the patients. I think, when you deal with people in icu you have to build up a dark humour to cope.

What would I do? I'd stop being such a massive bitch and accept that different people work differently and if her work isn't acceptable then raise it with a manager.

Depends. If it's the work Christmas do then she should be invited. If it's just work colleagues meeting for a social occasion then that is different. I sometimes meet up with colleagues, admittedly may be only a couple of colleagues, but we don't feel the need to invite every single work colleague. I know too that sometimes some of my colleagues meet and don't invite me.