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Meeting consultant after op. (Intimate area)

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Youmatter · 18/12/2018 11:05

So I’ll be meeting the consultant, very nervous. To find out the results of tests and how I’ve healed etc.

I’m extremely worried about receiving bad news.

My consultant is male (haven’t met) and when in hospital I had such a hard time with the physical examination.

I know it’s their job and they’re just looking at the particular thing and in no way am I using this as an excuse but I was assaulted and seem to freeze and really go into myself with panic when I was about to be examined and definitely felt more comfortable around a woman. I’m so embarrassed about this and didn’t make a scene at the time and felt so guilty about even being scared of other men who were only trying to help me.

So anyway, I’m trying to be positive. I am positive. I have my very best friend coming to the appointment with me and me and my family have made light of the op itself and it’s been great.

So I’m just focusing on other things.

Do you have any tips on how I can relax about the examination?

Do you think I should trim? I hate the thought of hair being an issue to see!

Sorry if this has put a downer on your day reading this I’m really trying to keep it ‘light’

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Youmatter · 20/12/2018 23:18

I know. I know this is to help me but there’s just that anxiety about it. I’ll be grand I know I will

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weebarra · 20/12/2018 23:26

I've had lots of intimate exams, breast cancer person in remission here, and the nurses have always been great at chaperoning and holding my hand at the same time. Just tell them what you need. Good luck.

Youmatter · 20/12/2018 23:38

It’s a little lower.

Thanks for replying to me, I really hope you’re doing ok? Such a brave person ❤️

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weebarra · 20/12/2018 23:49

Not at all. Just had good people treating me and good people holding my hand. One of my most enduring memories of my diagnosis was of going for my biopsies. (They took 20+). DH was in the corner and the nurse was holding my hand. At one point, I looked across and they'd changed places, I never noticed.

Youmatter · 20/12/2018 23:59

I’m just so terrified of men and I really try not to be. I know he’s only going to want to help me and is probably such a lovely person

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