How do you get signed off work sick?

[Whisky2014]

Do you go to gp and tell them the issues and see if they decide I should be at work or not or can I go to GP and ask to be signed off?

I’m sorry you’re feeling like this.

Given you’ve been there for so little time, I think it’s highly likely that your employment with this company will end.

If you need to work/want to remain in the company, you’re best off attending work if you can, and using whatever formal policies are available to you to raise a grievance.

If it's less than a week you don't need signing off and no employer can insist on a letter from a GP for that.

Yes they can.

Why do you think she is keeping tabs on you, is that her job? is she your manager? You sound very unhappy there, you shouldn't have to tolerate being bullied or targetted. Going off sick is only a short term solution, the problem is still there when you get back, do you have anyone at work you can confide in, what sort of work is it, is it something that you could easily find somewhere else. If someone has a history of bullying and targetting their colleagues then unfortunately they rarely seem to stop, they just pick off victims one by one until someone makes a formal complaint which is very stressful. I would be looking for another job, is it worth the upset.

There's so much to type but basically from the meeting to day she had lists of stuff. Comments I've made (taken out of context Or even just downright lies) and when i said i did not say that she just replied "yes you did whisky". So would go round in circles. Monitoring me. She has the jump because our manager agreed to let me work from home. She said the past times I did this I was not working (I was). She said my commute is clearly a problem if that's the reason I asked to work from home. I said I asked because no one else will be in the office (they all have hols to take and I dont) so it makes a big difference to me if i can work at home (60 miles each way). She said no one believes I'm working when i work at home. That hr have a policy of the distance people should commute and I am outwith that (so?!). Just fucking loads of ridiculous stuff.
This all came about because I went home sick friday afternoon, she had gone home at lunchtime and logged in from home and saw me go offline and was basically trying to say I was skyving. (Because earlier in the day I had talked about evening plans but I then became unwell and left at 2pm). I got home and logged on and she had sent me 2 emails asking where I was and had our manager approved it. She sent a colleague a Skype asking where I was and why had I gone. And then she also messaged our colleagues saying there were rumblings in the department about me working from home and leaving early.
I have worked from home twice both approved by our manager and I have never ever left early! It's all a load of shit.
So i emailed my manager to say I feel she is targeting me, trting to catch me out and basically making stuff her business when its not. Oh and gossiping about me.
Then that's when .manager asked us to get together and call him.
No I do not report to her!

How are you today, OP?

I am a bit better thanks. I spoke in co do sense to two people who were very supportive.
I cried myself to sleep last night, hyperventilating and all. Dreaded today but after the talks and the girl in question was OK with me I feel alot better.

Also just found out I'm pregnant so my mind is totally off work tonight!

Wow, lots on your plate so!

Is the pregnancy good news for you?

Yes! Just got married! Honeymoon baby hehe
I know I probably sound young in the post but im 32 with an amazing husband and we already have our forever home so we are in a good place. :)

Ah lovely, congratulations!!

I’m really not trying to downplay your anxiety at all, but I’ve thing that struck me about your posts is that there’s a pretty short timeline. From what I can tell, colleague made comments about you on Friday, and then conversation with Manager was on Monday. I know it’s very, very overwhelming, but sometimes you just have to go along with processes and see what improves now that your manager has addressed the issue (somewhat!).

Thank you :)
That is true it did all happen quickly but she had also ignored me for 2 weeks before I went off to get married. I did raise it to my manager and he said he could talk to her but I told him i thought it would add fuel to the fire.
I do suffer from anxiety and I really let things eat away at me. But I do definitely feel better today after the talks.
I am also aware I need to not be stressed for the good of our baby so I'm going to just take the high road. I feel better knowing people know what this girl is like too.