How do I adult?

[CountessOfNowhere]

I'm in my 40s and I live with my DD who is 19. We both have ASD. I am currently sitting in my scruffy, cluttered sitting room. I'm unhappy that it's scruffy and cluttered but I don't know where to start. I have a cleaner once a fortnight and every time she's been I promise myself I won't let it get messy again but that normally lasts about 3 days.

I get paid next Monday and I currently have £12 to my name. I have a reasonably well-paid job (take-home pay is about £1200) but I have money for 1 week then none for 3. I try to budget but it doesn't work.

I honestly don't think that I'm fit to look after myself and yet here I am: I hold down a job, I'm in a relationship (we don't live together) and I'm even a leader in girlguiding. I've brought my DD up on my own. But I just feel so rubbish.

I don't know what I'm hoping to achieve posting this. I'm feeling very low atm and just needed to get this off my chest.

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It sounds like you’ve done quite well so far- child, job, house.

The whole country is broke so that’s not just you!

So you need to look at specifics. What exactly are you spending your money on when you say you budget but it doesn't work. Also is your budget realistic? Are there unavoidable outgoings every month that you don't foresee eg car repairs/ winter boots or are you impulse spending on things you don't need?

Speaking from a whole family of people on the spectrum.
Income, place to live, child brought up, bills paid, community work - you are doing great. Don't hold yourself to somebody elses's standards.

Perhaps start a spreadsheet of all your income and all your outgoings (been doing that for the last 30 years) to see where your money goes and take it from there.

I have asd everything in my life I do that's adulting is via apps
I use ynab (you need a budget) to well... Budget!
Forest so I don't just spend all day online
Monzo Bank to also budget and control money
Cozi I use to timetable my day, every minute is accounted for even now is mumsnet/Internet browsing scheduled in, I have days when I clean scheduled in and specifically what to clean in whay order scheduled in.
I do not deviate from the cozi schedule, a find follow a routine to the letter solves a lot of my chaos.

Thank you for hints and tips and understanding! I'll look into those apps.