First time mum to be

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Is anyone else finding the thought of becoming a mum totally overwhelming?
Even though this baby is wanted Im finding the whole experience scary and just very overwhelming. Even choosing what I need for the baby is totally confusing me, there is so much stuff and I don’t know what’s best or right! Also I’m having constant water infections, taking antibiotics and feeling completely rubbish all the time but I’m told by the doctor there is nothing wrong. Am I crazy and over thinking or are other ladies feeling the same. My partner just laughs at me and tells me “it’s a walk in the park” any support/advice is greatfully received

I was exactly like this. Had a few moments in pregnancy where I thought “you know, maybe he’s ok to just stay in!”

He arrived last week and every doubt has melted away. He doesn’t know if I’m doing things wrong. He doesn’t know that I hated every moment of being pregnant with him. All he knows is our love for him now he’s out.

Do your best with the decisions you make before baby arrives. As long as you choose safe things, you can’t really go wrong.

Sending hugs x

Thank you!

You're going to be fine: a newborn's needs are very basic and you are able to meet them. As long as the baby is safe, warm and fed, you're good. Then as you get to know them, you'll learn to know what they need, and you will gain confidence. Don't worry about getting things wrong, we all do - that's how we learn! Good luck!

Your partner needs to learn some empathy and not dismiss your feelings by laughing at you.

It is overwhelming, but you realise afterwards that any of the choices available are fine, it's all just preference. None of them are definitively the best. I struggled trying to choose a pram, there were so many types and options. In the end we decided to go with one we thought was ok, and decide that if we hated it to sell it secondhand and just get a different one.