Ds (16) and I have had another long conversation about Christmas presents today and now i'm doubting myself.
Ds is the only child in the family and gets given quite a lot from my 2 dsis and from grandparents.
Every year they ask what he'd like and if it's a high value item, a few of them will go shares on it. Or they give him money and he buys whatever it is after Christmas.
He's asked for a tv and the one he wants is £200 so I suggested whoever wanted to chip in, do so and I'd top up any shortfall. Dsis 1 said she'd buy it just from her and I said no because it's too much money and also because the others would then be stuck for gift ideas. He'll also get stocking filler-type gifts from all of them.
I foolishly told Ds this and now he thinks I'm being mean for not letting his aunt buy him a £200 gift and that he would have come up with ideas for the others to get him.
His argument is that dsis can afford it so why would I stop her from spending her money as she pleases.
I have a strong suspicion that she's feeling guilty about ds' birthday (a few months ago) but she won't talk to me about it.
Ds is usually the least grabby child and I'd be interested to hear others' opinions to try and resolve this before Christmas actually arrives because I'm swinging between feeling guilty and a little bit miffed at his attitude.