Not fecking coping with 1.5 yr old

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All fucking day. She has screamed and cried about nothing. Over and over again.

She says she's hungry, I try to feed her. I get screaming and crying and something is so so desperately wrong but she can't possibly tell me and I just feel fucking hopeless.

Every nappy change. Every attempt to play/do an activity. Every time we move into a new room.

I give up and Mumsnet while she potters only she starts crying because 'snail stuck!' under sofa, so I free snail, only to find this causes more wailing, and attempts to replace snail where he was and wtf.

I feel myself getting snappier at her, and giving less of a shit that she's crying because nothing I do ever helps.

And I'm pregnant so I can't even drink in quiet desperation.

Aw you’re having a terrible time.

You’re really caught up in the moment and I’m sure non hormonal you would handle this like a pro. Thank god it’s nearly bedtime.

Take some deep breaths. Is there anyone you can phone? Family etc or even invite someone round?

Sound like she might be ill or in pain. Have you checked her temperature, or asked if anything is hurting? Though I realise they don't always tell you.... it sounds very tough for you both.

My daughter can be similar on days when she’s teething. Working on molars at the moment. I can typically tell by the way she sucks on her fingers and avoids food even when she’s obviously hungry. A dose of infant ibuprofen typically helps within 20 minutes or so, if teething is the issue. I also find getting out with her and letting her run around the park improves both our moods, rain or shine! I know how frustrating these days can be though...

Fresh air.

My 20mo has just come out of a week where he was really awful to look after.

I had to hold him all the time, do everything one handed. He slept really badly :(

I still dont know why but today he is back to his normal. I gave his medicine and he want visibly ill or hot or anything.

He has phases of this and it really effects my mental health.

I feel your pain :)

Might have earache or coming down with something x

My DS had regular phases like this between 1-2 years. Always seemed to come before a leap in language development. It was like he suddenly had more complex thoughts/feelings but couldnt express them and boy did he get pissed off about it.
DD is now 15 months and showing similar signs - lucky me!

Sorry, that’s not really advice, but just reassurance it may not be a perminant feature!

When my nearly 2 year old gets like this and I've ruled out thirst/hunger/tiredness it's nearly always because they are feeling under the weather and can't explain.

Lots of sore throats and things going around at the moment, maybe try an experimental dose of calpol and see if things improve just to rule out pain.

Sound like she might be ill or in pain.

She has a cold, but between crying fits she seems fine. No temperature. Definitely not teething as she drools/chews quite obviously when she is.

Fresh air.

Normally we would, but it's been chucking it down, and we were out all yesterday, so I'm feeling knackered.

I had painting and stuff for her to do that I thought would be enough, but after a few mins it was all wailing because the blue paint that I said was blue as she dipped the brush in turned out to be blue when she put it on the paper and she wanted 'no blue!!!!' apparently, and everything else I tried went similarly.

He has phases of this and it really effects my mental health.

Yes, that's just how I feel. I just find myself wanting to scream 'just tell me what the problem is', but of course she can't and that would be terribly unfair. Poor little love.

It was like he suddenly had more complex thoughts/feelings but couldnt express them and boy did he get pissed off about it.

It could be something like this. I'm glad from others posts I'm not alone in not always getting what the problem is!

Since writing my op she has randomly fallen asleep mid cry, so I can add 'overtired' to the list of things wrong (but obviously when I tried to get her to nap earlier that was totally wrong and upsetting of me).

OMG I found these times very trying, but then I think they barely prepared me for the teen years I am going through now!

Then I go and spend the day with my DD and her nearly three year old and nearly one year old and think I have it really fucking easy with my stroppy arsed mini me and her very nearly teen brother!

I really do feel for you but somehow the love you feel for them gets you through!

When mine used to get like that we had to get out the house even if it was a trip to the Morrison's cafe. Just seemed to do a reset