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I’ve had a really crap week and I can’t get past it

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 15/12/2018 23:15

Crap day at work on Monday, some not brilliant health news on Tuesday, Purse containing cash and gift cards for Xmas presents totally over £200 (and some very important sentimental items in) stolen on Tuesday, awful day at work Wed & Thurs, didn’t get the job I wanted, purse thieves spent money on my cards via contactless, (several hundred that I can’t afford and won’t get back until after Xmas) before I realised purse was gone, lost my second job (that I loved!), trying to support a friend but not doing a very good job apparently and was bollocked for it, my insomnia is back

I know I am so lucky compared to other people and these are nothing compared to others but I feel completely drained, I can’t sleep so am permanently exhausted, have a stress headache and am stupidly tearful. How do I give myself a metaphorical slap to get out of this? As I say, I know these problems are pathetic compared to others but I feel so so low and miserable and I don’t know how to get out of it. I am exhausted and need help!

Help!

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SexNotJenga · 15/12/2018 23:18

Those problems aren't pathetic, and I think you've had such a shit week that slapping yourself really would be unnecessary.

For now, have a hot bath, then try going back to bed.

aPoundInTheHand · 15/12/2018 23:19

That's proper pants week. Sending hugs

Autistichedgehog · 15/12/2018 23:28

That’s a shite week and I certainly wouldn’t be able to just “snap out of it”

When I have loads of stuff in my head I write it down in my journal as otherwise it just goes round and round and round in my head and stops me sleeping.

Give your head enough time to sort it out. Don’t try to fight it.

Fireandfury1 · 15/12/2018 23:29

That sounds like a proper crap week. No wonder your insomnia is back. Sending you much support. You are not alone. Is tough time for many. Hope you find comfort soon.

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 15/12/2018 23:35

Oh gosh, thank you all so much!

It was actually quite cathartic to write it down if I’m honest

I’m having another weep and listening to my lovely next door neighbours party which I didn’t go to because I just couldn’t stand in a room of strangers without crying...I feel like a prize fool!

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Wordthe · 15/12/2018 23:40

you poor thing 😢
you absolutely must not slap yourself
you must be kind to yourself and take care of yourself treat yourself gently so that you can recover from these awful shocks and horrible losses

Teachermommy · 15/12/2018 23:45

Wow, that is truly shit.
I'm going through a rough time at the moment and can completely identify with the feeling of not being able to avoid crying in public.
You need to look after yourself. Do what you need to do for the next couple of days. If you're able to, have a day resting on the sofa. Emotional stuff is exhausting.

You will get through this, life will get better. This too shall pass.

CazzieCatsRock · 15/12/2018 23:53

Oh, you poor love! Here...for you. Was that your thread about your purse being stolen? We are all allowed to wallow once in a while. Have a darn good cry - we're only human at the end of the day.

Ohyesiam · 16/12/2018 00:01

Op , you’re no fool. Please don’t harshly judge yourself like that. What would you say to a friend in that situation? Say that to yourself.
In fact I’ll say it for you

You are a worthwhile person who is having a tough time. All your feelings about it are valid, all of them. You deserve some care and attention right now.
X

Make a promise to yourself that you will be really kind with yourself while you get through this difficult patch.

floppybit · 16/12/2018 00:06

I have suffered with insomnia for 12 years since I was pregnant with my first son. After having tried so many things and suffering for ages my doctor put me on an extremely low dose of amitriptyline (10mg) which I take before bedtime, it totally changed my life! It's an antidepressant when taken at a much higher dose, but low doses can be used for insomnia and chronic pain. Worth speaking to your GP about.

Serin · 16/12/2018 00:11

Sorry you have had such a shit week. I agree with everyone else about being kind to yourself.
Light candles , put on your fav music/film and pyjamas. Find a good book and a decent selection of snacks!

Re insomnia, have you heard of weighted blankets? My friend got one of these and it helped her so much.

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 16/12/2018 00:15

Thank you all for taking the time to reply, it means an awful lot that you have.

I’ve cancelled my plans for tomorrow, I think I need to just turn the alarm off, hopefully sleep or at least doze and do nothing all day wether I sleep or not. I’m not very good at self care tbh!

I still have that lump in my throat and feel on the brink of crying but I don’t feel I’m being stupid anymore, maybe I am allowed an off day after all!

floppy amitriptyline was amazing for my insomnia but unfortunately the side effects were awful-I was taken to hospital twice with a suspected stroke but it was the tablets so sadly I had to come off them and nothing has ever been quite the same for it

Thank you all again, you’ve made my dark and lonely feeling cornet a little brighter x

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SlowlyShrinking · 16/12/2018 00:19

That’s an exceptionally shit week! I’m so sorry you’ve had all that to deal with at once. Give yourself time to process and be kind to yourself

Pandamodium · 16/12/2018 01:00

No wonder your fed up what a shitty week you have had

Is the insomnia a regular occurrence? I suffer on/off I've been prescribed (short term!) everything under the sun but surprisingly enough I've found an OTC medication more effective. It's branded as sominax it's just phenergen which is an antihistamine.

I find all my problems magnify by 10 when I can't sleep.

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 16/12/2018 10:42

Thank you x I thought I’d feel a bit better this morning but now have that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach about work tomorrow.

Thanks panda I’ll try them

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rockingthelook · 16/12/2018 21:58

You poor thing, what a shit week, have a cry if you want to, sometimes holding all your emotions in just makes stress worse?, I find the good suggestion from someone else about writing things down really helps, I keep a pen and paper by the bed in case I wake in the night, it also works if have a lot to remember. I like a good walk, sometimes just round the block again and again, I don't like exercise as of such such as running but walking definitely helps. Don't beat yourself up, nothing worse, it's natural to feel sad when things go wrong, remember the old phrase 'that this too will pass', best wishes x

lecossaise · 17/12/2018 00:04

Sorry about your week... It won't work for everyone, but I accidentally (mostly) cured 27 years of insomnia by attempting to hypotise myself. Can't hurt to try if you haven't already.

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IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 17/12/2018 23:20

Thank you both! My lovely neighbor noticed I haven’t been myself over the weekend and invited me over for cake and champagne tonight which has been lovely! I feel a little less like I’m about to burst into tears but I do feel like something stupid will tip me over to it (iygwim!)

How do you hypnotise yourself?! I’ll try anything right now!

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