This is my first post on mumset, I am from Ireland but I am post my story to raise awareness in the hope that even if my story saves on child and parent from going though what my daughter and I went through then I can someday look back and say I did right by my daughter.
My story is very long too long to post it all here but if this post is allowed I am happy to respond to any questions anyone has to provide them with any information the need.
This is a letter I wrote to a child play therapist.
Dear X
I deicide to write to you to inform you of the lives you have ruined though either total incompetence or perhaps an ulterior motive or perhaps both.
Through the false information that you outlined in both reports about me as a mother has caused me to lose my child, I decided to stop going through the courts to undo the damage you caused as ultimately I realized by doing this it was doing more harm than good to my precious little girl as her father and his wife kept her informed in great detail of the court proceedings and filling her innocent mind with lies about me.
I walked away to protect my wonderful little girl and in the hope that they will stop discussing me by her involving her in situations that are far beyond her understanding and no child should have to endure that.
I can now only hope they will love her and give her the wonderful life she deserves
IF you look at the pictures of her look at her beautiful happy smiling face it is a clear as day I never hurt my child emotionally or otherwise. From the moment I saw my little girls face I felt a love that cannot be put into words, and I vowed to love and protect her for as long as I live, I showered her with love, cuddles, praise and I did everything I could to give her a wonderful life. She was the happiest most loving little baby and this carried through her childhood, she is a sociable confidant happy little girl, she certainly never displayed any of the emotional abuse I was accused of inflicting upon her.
I told her everyday without fail how proud I was of her how wonderful she is how thankful I was each day to her. Every night before she went to sleep I said ‘thank you for a wonderful day’ it didn't it didn’t matter if she was being a little bit naughty earlier in the day on days that she was I would correct her and we’d move on.
She thrived in school, loved her after-school activities I enrolled her in, she loved playing with her friends in school at the park in play centres, everywhere we went she’d always make a new friend.
She loved to paint and draw and sing and dance, she loved rummaging through my wardrobe and dress up in my shoes and jewellery, she adored her kitten Benny, she loved getting up to mischief with Bap her granddad who spoiled her and adored her.
I made it clear to you that my little girl was coached by her father and xyz into saying the things that were said, I tried to prove to you that these were lies but you refused to acknowledge what I was saying despite the proof I had.
I showed the reports to two physiotherapists my gp and a physicist who have all informed me that both reports are highly one sided and lack any concrete proof aside from what as they believe also to be the words of an innocent child who was coached.
After I received the second report from you I outlined all the discrepancies which I will forward onto you.
I did not continue through the courts for reasons I have already outlined and as a result I will not be able to have any contact with my child, words will never describe the crippling pain I endure, every time I hear her favourite song, look at her toys, clothes, drawings, letters she wrote to me, remembering all the times we had together it feels like my heart breaking over and over again
From one mother to another it is inconceivable to me how you could have done this to a mother who loves her child more than anything else in the world. I just keep praying that she is happy and loved, I don’t know if I will ever see her again but I know I will always love her and fight each day to keep going so that if one day I get to see my baby again she will know my love for her is always there. Regardless of what she may feel towards me, she is and will always be the light and love of my life , she brought me happiness that I cant describe and I will be forever grateful to have had her in my life for six years. She is the best thing that ever happened to me and I owe it her to be strong