I feel awful right now.

[lonelymoon]

I'm led in bed shaking and worried sick. I've had such an awful day. Now I'm in bed the reality catching up with me.

My business is failing and I can't remember the last time I made any money. I can't see any future with it now.

My beautiful dc are so excited for Christmas but I'm so stressed at the moment I'm just a miserable person to be around.

Me and dh can't have a conversation without arguing.

Everything is just so rubbish at the moment. There is no enjoyment in my life. I love me dc dearly and they bring me happiness but also sadness as they deserve so much more than I can give them.

I'm sorry for such a depressing thread but I just need to talk to someone at the moment.

One day you’ll look back at this and realise it’s not about the gifts or the money, it’s the memories.

They’re going to pick up on your mood and feelings. You and DH need to have a chat. If your mental health is suffering, you may need to speak to a dr too. But you’re never alone. Not here.

I wish it was as easy as saying shake yourself off and try again in the morning but this time of year is so hard.

What’s your relationship like with DCs? So you’re skint and it may be a shit Christmas present wise but this is your time you connect with eachother.

Do things together. Get into your pjs regardless of how out of character and watch a lame Christmas movie. Play some games or bake. Stick the Christmas music on loud and wake everyone up in the morning!

All whilst thinking about a realistic plan when you and DH are on the same page.

You can do this.

Thank you youmatter every night I go to bed promising myself that I will be happy and enjoy myself and have a laugh with my dc the next day.

I really try to but there's always something to worry about.

My dc are still quite young all under 9.

That’s a great age! They can absolutely find themselves lost in movies with mum and dad.

Or a big cosy duvet palace in the lounge.

Embrace that innocence and imagination!

I was chatting with another and mentioned buying or using some cheap T-shirt’s and customising them for eachother. Silly, cheap crafty ideas are what kids completely love.

Making crazy food concoctions, doing the complete crazy and bizarre, because they’ll remember how much they made you laugh, not the cost of a new toy.

There’s always something to worry about! That will never change. But how you look at things can.

Last year (I think) there was a thread about what people remembered about their childhood Christmas.
It was a long thread, and only a couple of posters mentioned presents, what meant the most was essentially spending time with their families.
Youmatter is absolutely spot on. Don’t put pressure on yourself, just be with your children and follow their lead. Dance around your Christmas tree

When they're little they love you so much. Just spending time with them playing makes them so happy. It's bloody hard to try to blot out all the worries, but smiles on little faces which are for you and you alone go a long way to help

How you feeling today?

No too good today, but thanks for asking. Im feeling very low about everything.

Sorry you are feeling low.

Can you tell us about your business?
Do you sell a product or provide a service?

Can we help in giving you some ideas?

Grab a blanket OP and wrap it tightly around yourself. Have a warm drink. A warm bath. Try and let the feeling pass. The day isn't over. It's not even the evening yet. You can turn this around. Even if you have to fake it till you make it.

And perhaps it would be a good idea to see your GP?

I agree with the presents not mattering as much as memories.
Our Christmas is different this year as lost my stepdad last week to a tragic accident. Will still make it as special as possible tho xx

isthechangetoobig

Fully agree and would like an invite.

You need to be kind to yourself! Things are shite but absolutely fake that smile and it’ll for a brief second turn into a real one