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Drivingdilemma · 12/12/2018 09:35

I moved from the city to a small town just over a year ago for DP's work. I attempted to learn to drive previously but never took to it (I get quite anxious from driving and easily flustered), and it was never an issue for work because I worked in the city.

Going for the interview for my current job I was told that I'd struggle without a license - the job is mainly desk - bound, but does involve attending meetings fairly regularly in different locations (say about 20-30% of the time). Some of those locations are very difficult to get to on public transport. I also know that if I had my license I'd probably do more networking e.g more informal coffee catchups etc.

When I got the job my boss told me I should start lessons, which I have. The problem is I'm struggling to learn and have failed the test twice on an automatic. I'm not a terrible driver, just a nervous one. My boss hasn't asked me in some time how I'm going with my lessons and I'm scared to tell him how much I've struggled at times to get to meetings and events because it will cast doubt on my ability to do my job. I know some of my colleagues have noticed that I don't seem to be making progress and they probably think I'm not up to the job either.

So what do I do? At times I've really despaired and wanted to get a new job just because I find it so difficult sometimes, and wish my boss hadn't hired me in the first place:(

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Finfintytint · 12/12/2018 09:39

Try to find an instructor who specialises in anxious drivers.

Drivingdilemma · 12/12/2018 09:41

@Finfintytint my instructor is really good and supportive, but it's the test that I come undone in. I have another test booked in but have no idea if I'll pass this time either, and meanwhile I'm still trying to do my job as best I can and hide it from everyone else.

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NerrSnerr · 12/12/2018 09:42

I really struggled to learn to drive, I just hated lessons so much. I did a semi intensive course in the end, doing 4-5 hours a few times a week. It was really hard going but got me through. I got on well with the instructor and that helped. It then took a few months of driving every day to get myself to a place where I wasn't nervous. It's been 10 years now and I'm fine and learning was the best thing I ever did.

IrishMamaMia · 12/12/2018 12:27

My heart goes out to you, that's a lot of pressure. I'm struggling to officially get my licence. Nerves and manoeuvres are my huge issues but luckily I don't need to drive at all at the moment. It has built up into a huge obstacle in my head and after my last failed test attempt I got some lovely advice on here. I've taken a little time out to clear my head, had a hypnosis session and have started lessons with a lovely instructor.
The intensive course suggested above is a good idea, particularly if you have annual leave. Hoping to retest in February but careful not to put myself under pressure.
I'd be honest with the employer and ask for support. Maybe occasional time off for lessons and tests.
We will both get there :)

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