First of all I am not (quite) ready to be thinking of LTB but could do with some strategies...
DH has lost his job (again) recently so is at home full time. I have recently returned to work part time after 5 years as a SAHM. Dh has in theory been taking on the childcare on the days I work, although we still have them in school/ childcare as we have already paid up till the end of term.
One day he takes and drops off kids, the other days I leave at 7 to drop kids on my way to work then collect at 6 on my way home. he has 2.5 days at home without kids. the rest of the week I am also at home.
On the days he has taken them to school I have found that they have been taken in dirty uniform. Buttons not done up, hair not brushed DDs teacher has had to redo DDs hair on several occasions. Today was DS xmas show and although DH went to watch he didnt send DS with the required Xmas jumper.
So far this week he has been to the supermarket twice but there is still nothing for dinner tonight... and most nights I end up throwing something together after I get home at 6.30.
As a result of these I am turning into a massive nag. All I want is for him to think for himself and do a basic job. He says I am too fussy!
(I am not putting this in AIBU because I know I’m not!)
How can I get him to buck his ideas up without just having a rant everynight? And if this cant be resolved LTB might seem a more desirable option in the future?...