Brother on drugs

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My db has a history of drug abuse (crack) he's not very long just come out of jail and I'm terrified he will go back to smoking, if he isn't already.

I know he hasn't got a permanent place to stay, so it's a slippery slope that I don't know how to help him get out of.

I've been there, done that and got the t-shirt with bil, weve helped him in literally every way imaginable and nothing has worked. This sounds horrible, but, nothing really works, they will do what they want to do no matter what you put in place, they've got to want to get clean, just be there for him the day he decides he legit wants to get clean and never shut down that line of communication, he's done the shittiest things ever, but we know it's the drugs, we're not giving him anymore financial help or getting involved with much as it's just a waste of time, money and energy when he's still using were just keeping that communication open and hoping one day he will get clean but we're still waiting on that day.

It's so, so painful watching someone slide, I really feel for you. We're in this situation with DH's sister and one of the most painful things is watching people try to dig her out and breaking themselves in the process.

The biggest thing we learnt is getting support for us and giving ourselves permission to detach- ultimately, it's up to him to choose recovery and there's very little anyone can do to influence that.

Are you getting any support for yourself?

No I've not really got any support at all, my parents are useless, my dm just is oblivious and has no get up and go and my dad is just a flake.

I'm not sure he is using, as I have asked him but I know addicts lie. I don't want to start accusing him as I don't want to put him down.