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Losing my mind

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Badwifey · 10/12/2018 06:57

As the title says I'm losing my mind...

I'm awake since 4.15am AGAIN because my 4 yr old still cannot sleep through the night. She still wakes up for 2 hours and talks and talks non stop. No matter how many times I ask her to be quiet she just can't seem to do it. She lies there daydreaming, laughing and squealing. I ended up really shouting at her a few mins ago because I am just under so much pressure at the minute. I have a lot of family stuff going on at the minute and I'm so far behind in my coursework I feel like giving up.
I'm so fed up being tired all the time and I've piled on weight so I feel shit and I look shit. I'm lying here crying because I just feel so guilty.
I don't even know why I'm posting tbh. I just needed to get it out.

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margaritasbythesea · 10/12/2018 07:02

I've been there OP, and I've done the exhausted shouting too. It's punishing.

When my daughter was around that age, on thing that helped her sleep more was taking her for a wee when I went to bed. She'd be asleep really, like a dream wee. It helped her get over the 4 in the morning hump, when she usually had a period of light sleep, without being woken more by needing a wee.

Worth a try?

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Badwifey · 10/12/2018 07:10

Most mornings when she wakes she won't even go for a wee. I always ask but she says she doesn't need to.

We're living in an apartment and the neighbours above and beside us aren't helping plus the traffic outside makes it sound like morning time. The neighbour upstairs stomps around til late at night 11.30pm/12am she moves furniture and throws things on the floor at all hours. Then starts again around 4/5 Am. The next door neighbour gets up and coughs for about 30 minutes every morning at 5.30am (alcoholic heavy smoker).

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knittedjest · 10/12/2018 07:12

My children would have been in BIG trouble if she was squealing at 4 in the morning at 4yo so don't feel bad because that's ridiculous behavior. She's more than old enough to know better and lay quietly or go to her room and entertain herself until you wake up if she can't.

user1488622199 · 10/12/2018 07:15

Would a white noise machine help? It might drown out other sounds and help her to sleep longer. Or perhaps you might need to mimic her sleep patterns for a while I.e. go to bed when she does or shortly afterwards and get up early and tackle what you need to in the morning? It sucks not having an evening but sounds like a really tough phase.

Sleep deprivation is a form of torture - be kind to yourself! When my son went through a period of not sleeping I was vile to be around. I hope it passes soon.

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Badwifey · 10/12/2018 07:24

She doesn't like the sound of white noise so that won't work. She's a non stop talker during the day too and I can't make her be quiet then either. I feel like I never get peace... like there's just constant noise. Even at night. I worry about her starting school next year if she can't learn to be quiet.
I'm doing my final modules for college and I just assumed when I started that at this stage I would have plenty of time and energy to study but it's just not happening.

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Justlikedevon · 10/12/2018 08:26

Is she in her own room, or in with you? If she's in her own room, you tell her that if she wakes before (number on clock) she is not to disturb you unless there is a problem and she can read or play quietly in her room.

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Badwifey · 10/12/2018 08:41

She is in her own room justlikedevon. It needs to be really dark for her to sleep so I can't put for clocks or any night light on. There are blackout curtains up otherwise she won't sleep until 10pm

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Singlenotsingle · 10/12/2018 08:49

Are you in England OP? It's dark here by 4pm.
And is she loud enough to wake you up? If not, I'd just leave her to get on with it if she's not crying or distressed...

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Badwifey · 10/12/2018 08:59

Hi single I'm in Ireland it is dark when she's going to bed but if she has any light at all it wakes her. I know she could be confused as to the time of day but I don't know how to let her know without introducing some sort of light into the room.
She is very loud at times and it keeps me awake. We're in a small apartment where we can hear the man next door very clearly having conversations in his living room. So you can imagine how thin the walls and how shit the soundproofing is.

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HappydaysArehere · 10/12/2018 09:03

Things should definitely improve when she goes to school. She will get a lot more tired after a school day and she will mature more quickly. Her chattering will probably alter in a large group situation with lots of activities and interacting with other children. You might find she alters in all sorts of ways. Soon when you ask her what she has been doing at school she will probably say “nothing”!

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Badwifey · 10/12/2018 16:09

God I am just in the complete horrors today. I am exhausted and literally everything is getting to me.

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