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KAY21 · 09/12/2018 02:28

I am currently 13 weeks unplanned pregnancy. My boyfriend isn’t a loser and had a good job. He’s from Iraq and we have some cultural differences, I moved into his apartment with his family when I found out. We hadn’t been fully working before the pregnancy and he was excited about the baby, but now when I am not doing or acting how he wants he gets cold and mean. He threatens me with abortion, tells me if I spend a few nights at my mothers my stuff will be outside and I won’t be welcome back, and I must have a abortion, or he will hire the best lawyer and take away the baby. I had a thought before he said this if I do somethIng he doesn’t like after the baby is born he will kick me out of the house and his family won’t allow me to get my baby. I am not a drug user, I do smoke cigarettes and asked him to stop being negative and nagging, and to be supportive but he does the opposite like usual and it’s not helping me stop. I quit my painting job and and now working at a retail store because it’s toxic and and going to be going to school like I’ve been planning before this pregnancy, I feel like he’s punishing me and being mean and cold, and he hasn’t been nice at all. I am considering leaving, because I have been sad and depressed this whole pregnancy with no emotional support just the opposite. I’m starting to become deeply sad, and I’m afraid he will try and take the baby from me if I don’t conform to what ever he wishes of me.

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Weenurse · 09/12/2018 02:48

Leave, get your head straight, then worry about the rest.

Homemadearmy · 09/12/2018 02:53

Run away and don’t look back, it will never get better. He’s abusive and it will only get worse.
And in all honesty I would seriously consider whether you want to continue the pregnancy. Not because being a single parent is hard, but do you want to be tied forever to him. It doesn’t sound like he will be a good father.
I’ve been in a abusive relationship and have children from it. I got out while they were young and thankfully they don’t remember the abuse. My children are my world and I feel so guilty that I didn’t pick a decent man to have children with.

NutCrackerSuite · 09/12/2018 02:58

Leave asap, he's an abusive twat and it will only get worse.

stabulous · 09/12/2018 03:10

RUN.

moredoll · 09/12/2018 03:14

yep, RUN.

PatricksRum · 09/12/2018 03:16

Leave him and the cigarettes.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 09/12/2018 03:34

Absolutely - leave this man. If you stay with him he almost certainly will begin to physically abuse you. Your child will also be a victim of abuse if they grow up witnessing this.

Leave him, for your own sake. You can decide what else you want to do after that.

Miggeldy · 09/12/2018 04:50

Leave today. He's a collossal arsehole and is probably gearing up to seriously harm you.

nbtosser · 09/12/2018 05:55

I've got the scars to prove it

abbsisspartacus · 09/12/2018 05:59

Are you in the UK? Leave asap

brizzledrizzle · 09/12/2018 06:02

Leave and whatever you do, do not put his name on the birth certificate.

Miggeldy · 09/12/2018 08:50

Yeah keep his name off the birth cert.

Angrybird345 · 09/12/2018 09:04

Leave him!!

CormoranStrike · 09/12/2018 09:12

Leave him, have the baby I your home country and DO NOT put him or his name on the birth certificate.

And do not allow the child to visit his home country.

He is showing you his true colours - act on these red flags today.

hmmwhatatodo · 09/12/2018 10:34

I can’t figure our if you’re very young or English isn’t your first language. Anyway, whatever the case, he’s no good. Get away from him. What does he mean you can’t go to your family for a few days? And you’re living with him and his family right now? Get away from him and consider what you want to do with your life.No good will come of being involved with him.

WhyAmISoCold · 09/12/2018 11:08

How old are you OP? You mention school and do sound young.

Anyway, like pp said, leave him now, do NOT put him on the BC and NEVER allow him to take the baby alone.

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